Hey, DM...2007 called.

Does Ric Romero write for the DM now?

Bathia_Mapes: Hey, DM...2007 called.

Does Ric Romero write for the DM now?

You could always redlight this thread after it gets a little traction. Now THAT would be passive-aggressive! :D

What a stupid farking headline

In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

xanadian: Bathia_Mapes: Hey, DM...2007 called.

Does Ric Romero write for the DM now?

You could always redlight this thread after it gets a little traction. Now THAT would be passive-aggressive! :D

Nah, I wouldn't do that to another admin, unless it was a repeat obviously. :-D

Pet peeve:



Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

What you do in that situation is bend both of their windshield wipers into "L" shapes, it gets the message across

Another example someone posted on Facebook.

offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

Or four.



And no. I have no idea how one of his tires got deflated and the side of his door keyed.

Gwyrddu: Another example someone posted on Facebook.
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That's idiotic.

Sorry, but Louise needs the tap on to cover up the sounds of her throwing up as she purges her lunch. Bulimia is not funny.

Than you!

RoxtarRyan: And no. I have no idea how one of his tires got deflated and the side of his door keyed.

My former neighbor had a car alarm that would go off whenever larger vehicle passed by it early in the morning. She'd let it go off for minutes at a time. When I asked her politely to do something about it, she told be to EABOD.

I have no idea what happened to those tires.

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Sorry, but Louise needs the tap on to cover up the sounds of her throwing up as she purges her lunch. Bulimia is not funny.

The hell it isn't ...

The fact that they had to put a sign up tells me there's been multiple poopings. Which is disturbing.

RoxtarRyan: offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

Or four.

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And no. I have no idea how one of his tires got deflated and the side of his door keyed.

Judging by all the other empty spots, there was no one to key it.

My favorite

TravisBickle62: In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

Most of those notes were just aggressive. The one about sliding across the car, however, was a prototype of PA. It's basically when someone is pissed off at you but doesn't plainly show or state it and instead uses sarcasm (generally) or intentional body motions/words to show their anger.

Like when you ask your frowning, brow-furrowed spouse what's wrong and they answer, "Nothing" in a steely voice. Yet continue to go on rather plainly acting pissed.

I shall start taking subby's laundry out of the dryer before it is done and placing it on the floor.

TravisBickle62: In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

It's being aggressive without being assertive, ie. having the balls to confront Debbie instead of just leaving anonymous notes for her in the fridge. Not all of these notes are actually passively aggressive. If you don't know who to confront, you have to leave a note (eg. whoever the hell is pooping on the floor). By the loose definition used in this article, any traffic sign would be "passive-aggressive".

It's rather a lame label anyway. I've known people who might be described as "passive" in their aggressiveness, but they sure put a lot of effort into it. They just lacked the balls for a direct confrontation. "Manipulative-chicken-shiat-aggressive " would be more apt.

Salt Lick Steady: Gwyrddu: Another example someone posted on Facebook.
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That's idiotic.

It reminds me of one of those Kelly editorial cartoons on the Onion. So over the top it could pass for satire, but it was probably posted in earnest.

Someone needs a crash course in the meaning of "passive-aggressive."

Most of those notes didn't fit the bill at all. Some were plain out aggressive.

LeroyBourne: The fact that they had to put a sign up tells me there's been multiple poopings. Which is disturbing.

And on a side note:

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My favorite

There's nothing passive aggressive about that right there. lol!
/i hope my bike takes you straight to hell would be a great band's name.

Gwyrddu: Salt Lick Steady: Gwyrddu: Another example someone posted on Facebook.
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That's idiotic.

It reminds me of one of those Kelly editorial cartoons on the Onion. So over the top it could pass for satire, but it was probably posted in earnest.

I was thinking the same. Going back and forth on whether that was satire or in earnest.

/well I know you have the right to burn that flag, Johnny, but here's someone who was paralyzed from the neck down who can't even strike a match strip anymore...

LeroyBourne: The fact that they had to put a sign up tells me there's been multiple poopings. Which is disturbing.

Happened where I worked once, everyone in the building was looking for the "pervert" who kept sneaking into the womens' bathroom to poop on the floor (and many of them suggesting that it was me, since I'm such a psychotic sociopath man-child). Turns out it was the co-worker who kept suggesting I did it, she was caught in the middle of taking a dump on the bathroom floor by my supervisor.

/on the plus side, my co-workers were a lot more tolerant of my paranoia after that
//she claimed she was doing it to "draw attention" to security issues

ruta: TravisBickle62: In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

It's being aggressive without being assertive, ie. having the balls to confront Debbie instead of just leaving anonymous notes for her in the fridge. Not all of these notes are actually passively aggressive. If you don't know who to confront, you have to leave a note (eg. whoever the hell is pooping on the floor). By the loose definition used in this article, any traffic sign would be "passive-aggressive".

It's rather a lame label anyway. I've known people who might be described as "passive" in their aggressiveness, but they sure put a lot of effort into it. They just lacked the balls for a direct confrontation. "Manipulative-chicken-shiat-aggressive " would be more apt.

Your initial description is pretty accurate, except your appeal to "having the balls to confront" someone. That's totally irrelevant. All it takes to be active is to state one's qualm (and will usually be accompanied with a request or command for the behavior to stop). If one is concerned about retaliation and decides to leave a note rather than confront someone, it can still be active aggressive.

offmymeds: Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

Well, perhaps if others weren't clumsy assholes who scratch strange cars, that person wouldn't have to use two spots. It's like gay marriage, that person using two spots is not hurting you so why attack them?

Happened where I worked once, everyone in the building was looking for the "pervert" (...since I'm such a psychotic sociopath man-child). ...

I always felt that I had a long-lost twin!

ZoeNekros: If one is concerned about retaliation and decides to leave a note rather than confront someone, it can still be active aggressive.

Because notes are just so directly confrontational. Someone might get a papercut reading it!

/yeah, civilization is doomed, enjoy the ride
//words need to be capable of active aggression, if we're ever to be rid of that pesky First Amendment

To Tatterdemalian


The water was cold: Happened where I worked once, everyone in the building was looking for the "pervert" (...since I'm such a psychotic sociopath man-child). ...

I always felt that I had a long-lost twin!


Sorry - bad cut-and-paste skills.

TravisBickle62: In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

It's not.
I have a co-worker who tells our boss, "Yes, I will stop coming to work late and leaving early." "Sure, i'll stop piling hard drives in the hallway."
And then he does those things anyway, while explaining to ME why he is justified.
He also talks sugar on the phone and hangs up saying he will never deal with that asshole again....
This is passive-aggressive behavior.
Since these notes started being passed around in email chains 10 years ago with the subject "Passive Aggressive Notes" (instead of "funny notes", or wherever), the term seems to have stretched to include "not punching that guy in the face."

Daily Mail is not a website that should be writing about passive aggressive behavior of others.

Tatterdemalian: LeroyBourne: The fact that they had to put a sign up tells me there's been multiple poopings. Which is disturbing.

Happened where I worked once, everyone in the building was looking for the "pervert" who kept sneaking into the womens' bathroom to poop on the floor (and many of them suggesting that it was me, since I'm such a psychotic sociopath man-child). Turns out it was the co-worker who kept suggesting I did it, she was caught in the middle of taking a dump on the bathroom floor by my supervisor.

/on the plus side, my co-workers were a lot more tolerant of my paranoia after that
//she claimed she was doing it to "draw attention" to security issues

I can relate to the psychotic sociopath man-child thing. I was staying with my mom one summer in between college semesters. I walked out of my room morning and noticed the cat took a huge dump right in front of my door. I asked my mom about it, and she goes, oh I thought you did that. I go, you thought I opened my door, took a shiat, then closed it and went back to bed? Does that sound about right?

Walked into one of these situations once. No notes, and my name's not Debbie, and I'm a guy, but whatever. Just the one woman letting everyone know I'd been the one stealing everyone's stuff. Still not clear what started her up but I imagine she just did this to everybody. Her personality seemed like the type. Let everybody know I was touchy about it so don't confront me just watch me, etc. A real pile of stupid she was.

Anyway I just sat back and let the smoke clear over a few weeks or months or whatever it took. Also learned PDQ this story had a big gaping hole in it: She had a reputation for doing exactly this, and the whole workplace complained behind her back without provocation. Atleast once a week. She even wouldn't steal sometimes - she would ask where your (whatever food) had gone, she would've liked to have had it. (What? Really?) Eventually everybody got the real story and relaxed about me, don't understand what kind of fools wouldn't fire her ass after all her stuff though.

Dammit! I lost my favorite.

I snagged a sign from a strip club men's room that said:

Jerome,

Stop jacking off in the bathroom! Other people need to use it and they don't want to watch you!

RoxtarRyan: offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

Or four.

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And no. I have no idea how one of his tires got deflated and the side of his door keyed.

It looks like an empty parking lot, who cares how many spaces he uses?

RoxtarRyan: offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

Or four.



And no. I have no idea how one of his tires got deflated and the side of his door keyed.

Son of a biatch.

TravisBickle62: In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

I am equally confused. So are the shrinks who write the DSM.

http://www.straightdope.com/columns/r ead/2453/what-is-passive-aggress i ve

offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

There's a website for THAT, too:

http://youparklikeanasshole.com/

Tatterdemalian: ZoeNekros: If one is concerned about retaliation and decides to leave a note rather than confront someone, it can still be active aggressive.

Because notes are just so directly confrontational. Someone might get a papercut reading it!

/yeah, civilization is doomed, enjoy the ride
//words need to be capable of active aggression, if we're ever to be rid of that pesky First Amendment

Two things. First, that was just an example. More generally, sometimes it's just not very practical to confront someone in person, say when someone who works the day shift has an issue with something someone working the night shift does. Second, such notes are directly confrontational. It's not about getting in someone's face, but stating one's qualm. It is the words that need to be active aggressive. It doesn't require any particular behavior. Talking in person, one can be either active or passive aggressive. The same is true of notes.

offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

I've actually parked the other direction behind someone that was parked like that at the supermarket. He (it's always a he) was waiting when I got back to my car 10 minutes later, visibly upset that I'd boxed him in. I just said I thought his parking job meant that it was freestyle parking day at the Safeway, and that I was pretty happy that we managed to get both cars into the space for two cars. He swore, I drove off with a smile.

/never fark with a Canadian in a passive/aggressive contest

TravisBickle62: In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

Not all of us can afford to let the world go by us without even a hint of understanding how it works. We can't all be intelligent perceptive people, now can we. Some of us have to provide the world with uninteresting nattery so the rest of us can recognize what to filter out. But I guess it's none of my business if people want to waste their lives without learning anything about the psychology of their fellow human beings. It must be nice in that little post-adolescent bubble. And why don't you ever call...?

ZoeNekros: Second, such notes are directly confrontational. It's not about getting in someone's face, but stating one's qualm. It is the words that need to be active aggressive. It doesn't require any particular behavior. Talking in person, one can be either active or passive aggressive. The same is true of notes.

Sure, because stating one's qualm presents just as much potential for violence as getting in someone's face. We need not just gun control, but WORD control, in order to eliminate the possibility of giving any insult or offense.

/next up, "blasphemy" laws
//not to protect the Bible, but definitely to protect the Quran

ZoeNekros: Tatterdemalian: ZoeNekros: If one is concerned about retaliation and decides to leave a note rather than confront someone, it can still be active aggressive.

Because notes are just so directly confrontational. Someone might get a papercut reading it!

/yeah, civilization is doomed, enjoy the ride
//words need to be capable of active aggression, if we're ever to be rid of that pesky First Amendment

Two things. First, that was just an example. More generally, sometimes it's just not very practical to confront someone in person, say when someone who works the day shift has an issue with something someone working the night shift does. Second, such notes are directly confrontational. It's not about getting in someone's face, but stating one's qualm. It is the words that need to be active aggressive. It doesn't require any particular behavior. Talking in person, one can be either active or passive aggressive. The same is true of notes.


I think I see a passive aggressive anonymous-note-writer that refuses to acknowledge his fear of confrontation and unfortunate propensity to get butt hurt enough to want to confront someone despite this limitation.

The first one (about feeding the cat) did not strike me so much as passive-aggressive so much as the owner didn't know who was feeding the cat. (Could be more than one neighbor, too). Similar to a standard "Do not feed the animals" at a zoo; it's not addressed to one specific person.

Also, love Dwight's rejoinder. Also love using the word "rejoinder".

TravisBickle62: In all serious: WTF does "Passive Aggressive" mean?

I see it all the time but I have never been able to figure it out. How is leaving a note "Passive"? Seems just "Aggressive" to me.

Passive aggressive is doing something requested, but doing it in an irritating way: You need me to send you a photo, so i send it to you, but embedded in an .xml file. In this example, I technically fulfilled your request, but did it in a manner that is difficult for you to work with.

unyon: offmymeds: Pet peeve:

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Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

I've actually parked the other direction behind someone that was parked like that at the supermarket. He (it's always a he) was waiting when I got back to my car 10 minutes later, visibly upset that I'd boxed him in. I just said I thought his parking job meant that it was freestyle parking day at the Safeway, and that I was pretty happy that we managed to get both cars into the space for two cars. He swore, I drove off with a smile.

/never fark with a Canadian in a passive/aggressive contest

I've boxed someone who thought their hummer should get a handicapped spot. Watched the douche do it. Parked right behind him with my sticker. He called the security and when I came out while the security guy was explaining that the only person that he was able to ticket was him.

rebelyell2006: offmymeds: Assholes who take up two parking spaces.

Well, perhaps if others weren't clumsy assholes who scratch strange cars, that person wouldn't have to use two spots. It's like gay marriage, that person using two spots is not hurting you so why attack them?

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