Susan Cain's TED talk: The power of introverts

I expect one of these in the mail any day now

Yaaaaay.

/not too loud

I already knew I wasn't insane; my mother had me tested.

Of course introversion is not pathological. Most introverts are perfectly normal people who have simply realized that we want nothing to do with the rest of you.

Bigger news: The APA actually rules out a possible broad category as a DSM entry.

Lor M. Ipsum: Susan Cain's TED talk: The power of introverts

Too long to watch now, will do later... but why the hell does this even need to be said? Extroverts have skills, Introverts have skills.

I'm an extrovert outside of work, but when working... a complete introvert. I don't like distractions, I like immersing myself in my project and basically putting the blinders on. I'm not mean, or dismissive of co-workers or whatever. I just don't want to socialize with them beyond the minimum necessary to get stuff done.

Last time I had a real job, before working on my own (11 years now)... there was nothing worse than socialization. Other than with one guy who was my friend outside of work (I hired him).

I don't facebook, linkdin, any of that.

Who cares?

Woohoo!

It's not that I hate other people, it's just I can't find people that haven't made a conspiracy theory the focal point of their lives.

meat0918: Woohoo!

It's not that I hate other people, it's just I can't find people that haven't made a conspiracy theory the focal point of their lives.


So you're saying that the people who aren't conspiracy theorists are somehow being hidden from you by some unknown agency?

Boy, the voices in my head are going to be relieved to hear this.

Ed Finnerty: Boy, the voices in my head are going to be relieved to hear this.

I'm so introverted that I refuse to communicate with the voices in my head.

In my experience, extroverts are full of shiat. They are just as insecure as everyone else, they just hide it behind a mask of bravado.

FloydA: meat0918: Woohoo!

It's not that I hate other people, it's just I can't find people that haven't made a conspiracy theory the focal point of their lives.


So you're saying that the people who aren't conspiracy theorists are somehow being hidden from you by some unknown agency?

No, I seem to attract crazies.

I'd stay home and watch DVDs with her.

Dallymo: I already knew I wasn't insane; my mother had me tested.

Does Maury Povich count?

Was this in doubt? Was introversion considered a mental illness before?

downstairs: Too long to watch now, will do later... but why the hell does this even need to be said? Extroverts have skills, Introverts have skills.

I enjoyed her speech. She talks about how school and work environments are specifically designed for extroverts even though introverts are proven to have better test scores and leadership potential. Perhaps introverts perform better because they have more experience working outside of our comfort zone. It is an intriguing topic.

Lor M. Ipsum: working outside of our their comfort zone

So much for being impartial...whoops

I married a big, boisterous sheild, and wasn't aware of how introverted I was (LOVE being on stage and performing) until I made a Mommy Friend who is at the co-dependent end of the extrovert spectrum. A day with her would wipe me out for a week. Once I figured it out I cut back on socializing with her to once every few months, and that is enough for me!

I like that a site called 'Psychiatry Today' uses the term 'nuts.'

/quietly getting a kick...

I recall working with a client who felt sick, paradoxically, because she was so different from her schizophrenic mother, abandoning father, and baffling family. After assessing her, I told her, "you're not depressed; your life just sucks."

Whoa. Take it easy, there.
How in hell is the medical/ pharmaceutical complex supposed to make a buck with a diagnosis like this?

Ackbar_GastricFluid: I like that a site called 'Psychiatry Today' uses the term 'nuts.'

/quietly getting a kick...

Ology... I havent had my beer yet.

FloydA:

Of course introversion is not pathological. Most introverts are perfectly normal people who have simply realized that we want nothing to do with the rest of you.

Y'all may not know this from my Fark persona, but I'm actually very introverted: if it weren't for walking a very energetically friend dog I'd most likely meet none of my neighbors except to nod as we pass. And that would only be so they won't know think I know think I'm better than they are.

On the Internet nobody knows I'm a nebbish; in real life nobody knows I'm a charming supergenius.

The One True TheDavid: FloydA:

Of course introversion is not pathological. Most introverts are perfectly normal people who have simply realized that we want nothing to do with the rest of you.

Y'all may not know this from my Fark persona, but I'm actually very introverted: if it weren't for walking a very energetically friend dog I'd most likely meet none of my neighbors except to nod as we pass. And that would only be so they won't know think I know think I'm better than they are.

On the Internet nobody knows I'm a nebbish; in real life nobody knows I'm a charming supergenius.

Totally unlike everyone else on Fark.

downstairs:

Ed Finnerty: Boy, the voices in my head are going to be relieved to hear this.

I'm so introverted that I refuse to communicate with the voices in my head.

Right, you spend all your time kibbitzing with the voices in mine.

But seriously, don't insane extraverts hear voices too? Why do people always single out the quiet ones, when it's the noisy, magnetic and persuasive nutjobs that do all the real damage? Dahmer might have been an introvert, but I doubt Stalin was.

Lor M. Ipsum: Susan Cain's TED talk: The power of introverts

I just started reading her book "Quiet" last night. So far the introduction is good.

Hooray fellow introverts! "We shall overcome..."

/Still waiting for ADD to be DSM'ed...and my disability checks.

//Asperger's are real to me, damnit!

FTFA:"Capt DJ got a little snarky: "If Introversion is a disease, then can I please get a disability so I don't have to work with extroverts all the time???" "

OK. Now I am conflicted. I could have hit my company up, under that ADA, to be moved from the middle of a raucous cube-farm into a sweet quiet office.

:/

FloydA: Of course introversion is not pathological. Most introverts are perfectly normal people who have simply realized that we want nothing to do with the rest of you.

Exactly. I'm not an introvert, I'm a misanthropist.

Awesome. I'm out of social energy after a day at work, so I think I'll just go home and celebrate with a beer and some video games.

/maybe send an email if I'm up to it

Rather be alone with my thoughts than listening the the babble of the idiots.

girljen: Awesome. I'm out of social energy after a day at work, so I think I'll just go home and celebrate with a beer and some video games.

/maybe send an email if I'm up to it

I have recently started replaying GTA IV. While I'm alone in my apartment, playing my video game in the dark, I get SO IRRITATED when the other characters in the game keep calling me and asking me to do stuff.

All I want to do, even in the game, is have some alone time.

LEAVE ME ALONE, ROMAN!!!

meat0918: Woohoo!

It's not that I hate other people, it's just I can't find people that haven't made a conspiracy theory the focal point of their lives.

Either you live in rural Wisconsin ("militialand") or you have a very broad definition of "conspiracy theory."

But then I tell people my parents raised me up in an insidious cult: the United Methodist Church. Their tendency's founder John Wesley was a raving loon who hated anybody enjoying life.

When you get down to it, the very essence of most sects of Xianity is a conspiracy to conquer and rule the world in the name of their Imaginary Friend, not by armed might but by hocus pocus, con games and brainwashing. But that's probably not what you meant.

Handsome B. Wonderful: FloydA: Of course introversion is not pathological. Most introverts are perfectly normal people who have simply realized that we want nothing to do with the rest of you.

Exactly. I'm not an introvert, I'm a misanthropist.

"You hate people!"
"But I love gatherings. Isn't it ironic?"

Sounds like a bunch of farkers consider themselves introverts. I know, i do. I do like message boards, but in a way, that is simply a way of expressing a stream of consciousness to other consciousnesses. Its not the same thing as talking to them.

The next step is they get added to the ever broadening spectrum of autism so that 1 in 1.8 people have it.

I don't care what a couple of mercenaries who work for beer money think about me.

Bah- if I were any more introverted than I already am then I would absorb light. My question is: can we get extroversion in the DSM V?

People who can't enjoy their own company are usually right.

I'd like to point out that I'm not misanthropic, though. I love people. I just have a limited amount of social energy, and once that's gone, I have to go be alone to recharge. Apparently extroverts are the opposite; alone time drains them, interaction recharges them...I just cannot wrap my brain around that.

Is neurotic still considered crazy?

InfrasonicTom: The next step is they get added to the ever broadening spectrum of autism so that 1 in 1.8 people have it.

Yeah, they had to take a few things out of the DSM in order to finish making all males autistic.

I'm having a party and no one's invited except me.

downstairs: Lor M. Ipsum: Susan Cain's TED talk: The power of introverts

Too long to watch now, will do later... but why the hell does this even need to be said? Extroverts have skills, Introverts have skills.

I'm an extrovert outside of work, but when working... a complete introvert. I don't like distractions, I like immersing myself in my project and basically putting the blinders on. I'm not mean, or dismissive of co-workers or whatever. I just don't want to socialize with them beyond the minimum necessary to get stuff done.

Last time I had a real job, before working on my own (11 years now)... there was nothing worse than socialization. Other than with one guy who was my friend outside of work (I hired him).

I don't facebook, linkdin, any of that.

Who cares?

That is not introversion. That is staying focused on the task at hand.

The best description I have have heard for extroversion versus introversion (and is the one I use when I get shiat for not being so out going) is:

Extroverts get energy (or are energized, if you will) by interacting with others. Introverts are energized when they are alone. Conversly, it costs energy for an introvert to interact with people and it costs energy for the extrovert to spend to much time alone.

I live in a place where the introverts stare at their shoes and the extroverts stare at your shoes.

/not really
//that line is stolen

First, I'm thrilled that it was removed. I'd like to throw-well, not a party

Maybe a pint of ice cream and a quiet night at home with the cats?

Lor M. Ipsum: downstairs: Too long to watch now, will do later... but why the hell does this even need to be said? Extroverts have skills, Introverts have skills.

I enjoyed her speech. She talks about how school and work environments are specifically designed for extroverts even though introverts are proven to have better test scores and leadership potential. Perhaps introverts perform better because they have more experience working outside of our comfort zone. It is an intriguing topic.

That's actually an interesting theory. I would add onto it that introverts are observers so they tend to notice bad behavior in others and are thus potentially able to self-correct before making the same mistakes. Or that it at least allows them to understand people and how they function and thus use that to their advantage or at least know how to deal with people on an individual level. I have noticed that introverts tend to be better leaders, but unfortunately extroverts often times won't allow that to happen and they tend to de-rail things a lot. Of course this all depends on the specific personality type of the individual and of course the person themselves.

I don't want anybody else. When I think about you, I touch myself.

/Introvert

T. Dawg: I married a big, boisterous sheild, and wasn't aware of how introverted I was (LOVE being on stage and performing) until I made a Mommy Friend who is at the co-dependent end of the extrovert spectrum. A day with her would wipe me out for a week. Once I figured it out I cut back on socializing with her to once every few months, and that is enough for me!

FYI, co-dependency isn't just an extroverted trait. I'm a solid introvert with a long struggle with co-dependency.

Phew...glad to hear that I'm not crazy...

...not because I'm an introvert, at least.

I love a good APA!



...enjoyed quietly, by myself.