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05 Nov 2012 10:55 AM   |   9027 clicks   |   Some Guy
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quickdraw     
Um no.

Well I dont know about your shrink but no one understands jealousy better than Shakespeare.

05 Nov 2012 10:39 AM
ChipNASA    [TotalFark]  
I call BULLSHIAT

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05 Nov 2012 10:58 AM
KatjaMouse     
Wow, that blog sucked.

05 Nov 2012 10:58 AM
Arumat     
Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?

05 Nov 2012 11:00 AM
CapeFearCadaver    [TotalFark]  
I only care if they're going to turn jealousy into a mental illness.

Wait, no I won't.

05 Nov 2012 11:01 AM
JackieRabbit     
A blogger goes against well-established (by centuries) knowledge and makes some nonsense up. Who to believe?

05 Nov 2012 11:02 AM
The more you eat the more you fart     
How about realizing your partner is just as lucky to have YOU as you are to have HER? (or him)

In the case of men, stop being an emasculated pussy. Realize that you bring certain things to the relationship that no one else can. If she is making you feel like you have to EARN her, then dump the biatch and find someone decent who will respect you and realize that YOU aren't the only lucky person present.

In the case of women, realize that you dont need some guy to provide for you. You are capable of providing for yourself and SHOULD. If you are with a man that thinks a woman's place is in the kitchen and HE's the one that makes all the money, then dump the misogynistic bastard and get a real man.

05 Nov 2012 11:05 AM
lostcat     

KatjaMouse: Wow, that blog sucked.


And what's the "Amusing" tag doing there? Was I supposed to laugh?

05 Nov 2012 11:08 AM
demidog     
FTFA: A typical one size fits all nugget from these tomes: Jealousy results from low self-esteem.

Sometimes you know your significant other could have done a lot better than you, and you don't want to lose your lucky break. That lucky break could very well be the only good thing in your life.


I love it when people give examples that reinforce the very point they're trying to refute. As other people have said, your blogs sucks.

05 Nov 2012 11:12 AM
KatjaMouse     

Arumat: Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?


I feel like a little bit of jealousy is healthy for a relationship. It's not necessary but it's not a bad thing either. It all comes down to the manifestation of that reaction. Like telling your boyfriend that he can't hang out with that one girl, ever. Or that guy who's so paranoid that his girlfriend is going to sleep with his best friend that he will intentionally create tension anytime either of them are in any kind of proximity to one another. But feeling a little nervous around someone that your partner may potentially have attraction for can create something of a positive challenge or self discovery. "Why am I jealous? Is X displaying something I wish was present in myself or something I may have lost at some point? Maybe I should figure out why that's pissing me off so I can fix the problem in a more constructive fashion than having my spouse needlessly pissed at me."

05 Nov 2012 11:12 AM
JackieRabbit     

KatjaMouse: I feel like a little bit of jealousy is healthy for a relationship.


No, it isn't. If someone older than about 20 suffers from jealousy, he/she should not be in a relationship. Adults may feel jealousy on occasion, but chalk it up being childish and silly. If a mate is actually doing things that would evoke the emotion, then that mate should be summarily dumped.

05 Nov 2012 11:19 AM
REO-Weedwagon     
White text on a black background instantly notified me the blog isn't worth reading.

05 Nov 2012 11:21 AM
Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom     
Jealousy is an objective negative when it comes to relationships. Either you aren't being cheated on and you should trust your partner, or you are being cheated on and you should leave your partner. That's it.

The whole "I trust you but I don't want you hanging out with x" means you don't trust him/her.

That said: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.

05 Nov 2012 11:22 AM
imfallen_angel     
Jealousy is quite about self-esteem BUT it's also about confidence and trust.

Many confuse jealousy and envy when they start their own version of psycho-babble, and it appears that it's what I read in this article.

A guy that would hit on my wife (which has happened) wouldn't make me jealous, because I trust my wife (something that I understand is hard to do in many couples), but I might be wanting to biatch at the guy for the lack of respect if he had hit on her knowing that she was married.

If he didn't, then I'd see it as compliment to my wife, and consider myself lucky that I have a nice looking wife that other guys would show interest.

05 Nov 2012 11:28 AM
Tax Boy     
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05 Nov 2012 11:28 AM
Snacktastrophe     
My wife is going through a mid-life crisis and wants to kiss everyone in sight so I'm getting a kick...

05 Nov 2012 11:29 AM
REO-Weedwagon     

Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.


As a 41-year-old never-married bachelor, I must say this is some of the best advice you'll ever read. All you young Farkers should burn this into your brain.

05 Nov 2012 11:31 AM
JackieRabbit     

REO-Weedwagon: Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.

As a 41-year-old never-married bachelor, I must say this is some of the best advice you'll ever read. All you young Farkers should burn this into your brain.


Perhaps I should introduce her to My Little Friend...

05 Nov 2012 11:31 AM
CapeFearCadaver    [TotalFark]  

Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: That said: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.


Why? You can't trust me simply because I grew up a tom-boy and still hold the same friends I've had for 22 years? I'd think that would show a level of loyalty one might want from their partner.

And being good friends with an ex, couldn't that state a level of maturity from both people now that the relationship is ended? Most of my exes are great people, I wouldn't have dated them in the first place if they weren't. We simply didn't work out in a romantic situation... so why should we lose a good person from our lives because we're not dating any longer?

Understanding and knowing your partner can go a long way towards a healthy relationship. If you understand and know your partner you have no excuse to not trust them.

05 Nov 2012 11:32 AM
special20    [TotalFark]  
If you still have a problem with jealousy, and your age no longer requires saying "teen", then you should take a serious look at where your life went wrong.

05 Nov 2012 11:35 AM
Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom     

CapeFearCadaver: Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: That said: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.

Why? You can't trust me simply because I grew up a tom-boy and still hold the same friends I've had for 22 years? I'd think that would show a level of loyalty one might want from their partner.

And being good friends with an ex, couldn't that state a level of maturity from both people now that the relationship is ended? Most of my exes are great people, I wouldn't have dated them in the first place if they weren't. We simply didn't work out in a romantic situation... so why should we lose a good person from our lives because we're not dating any longer?

Understanding and knowing your partner can go a long way towards a healthy relationship. If you understand and know your partner you have no excuse to not trust them.


It's like the BMI - it may not be applicable to 100% of cases, but it's a useful metric in the screening process.

05 Nov 2012 11:40 AM
trippdogg     
Shakespeare was a grand versifier, but the idea that he possessed great psychological insight is absurd. His main character is invariably a dimwit or an asshole - in either case, in need of nothing so much as a good punch to the face.

...and I'm not the first to think so.

05 Nov 2012 11:46 AM
nmemkha     

Arumat: Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?


I have been with women that attempt to elicit jealousy from their SO. Its demonstration seem to make them feel better about themselves and my commitment to our relationship. How was my jealously "selfish"?

05 Nov 2012 11:47 AM
Arumat     

nmemkha: Arumat: Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?

I have been with women that attempt to elicit jealousy from their SO. Its demonstration seem to make them feel better about themselves and my commitment to our relationship. How was my jealously "selfish"?


In that case, it's from THEIR selfishness for trying to make you feel negatively about the relationship to satisfy their own ego. From the way you said it, I'm guessing that you're no longer with those manipulative skanks, so good for you.

05 Nov 2012 11:50 AM
Rednaxel     
What a bunch of bull, jealousy means you dont trust the other person, usually because you feel insecure about yourself and dont think you deserve them. If you think someone hitting on your girl/guy is going to cause you to lose them, then you dont really have them to begin with.
Also the author seems a bit obsessed with looks, as if that is the only source of jealousy.

05 Nov 2012 11:51 AM
CapeFearCadaver    [TotalFark]  

Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: It's like the BMI - it may not be applicable to 100% of cases, but it's a useful metric in the screening process.


Understandable. Though that worries me that you might have passed up someone amazing by sticking to your screening process.

05 Nov 2012 11:51 AM
James F. Campbell     

trippdogg: ...and I'm not the first to think so.


Nor will you be the last, I'm sure, five hundred years from now when human beings are still reading Shakespeare and you and all of your descendents have long crumbled to dust and been forgotten.

05 Nov 2012 11:55 AM
ablank     

demidog: FTFA: A typical one size fits all nugget from these tomes: Jealousy results from low self-esteem.

Sometimes you know your significant other could have done a lot better than you, and you don't want to lose your lucky break. That lucky break could very well be the only good thing in your life.

I love it when people give examples that reinforce the very point they're trying to refute. As other people have said, your blogs sucks.


Came here to say this, see it's been covered.

05 Nov 2012 11:56 AM
keypusher     

demidog: FTFA: A typical one size fits all nugget from these tomes: Jealousy results from low self-esteem.

Sometimes you know your significant other could have done a lot better than you, and you don't want to lose your lucky break. That lucky break could very well be the only good thing in your life.

I love it when people give examples that reinforce the very point they're trying to refute. As other people have said, your blogs sucks.


I can't speak to the blog, because I can't access it, but there doesn't seem to be anything objectionable in that excerpt. If I think my partner is better than I am, maybe I am right. If I have low self-esteem, maybe it's because I am a worthless piece of crap who should think ill of himself.

05 Nov 2012 12:12 PM
I May Be Crazy But...     
What if you're jealous of all the guys who don't have to put up with her bullshiat?

05 Nov 2012 12:26 PM
I May Be Crazy But...     
As for the whole "she's better than me" thing, you know how I know I'm the manliest, best looking, nicest, smartest, and all round best guy in the world? Because the best woman in the world agreed to marry me.

Which is to say, all you guys who are insecure, you have good reason to be. Because you're living in my shadow, whether you know it already or not.

05 Nov 2012 12:29 PM
RassilonsExWife     
What the fark was that? (And why was it submitted? And why did it go green?)

05 Nov 2012 12:34 PM
snocone    [TotalFark]  
Well, that proves the author is totally clueless.
If you were wondering in the first place.
Which you were not, I will wager.

/better use of time than watching those lying pricks on the tube

05 Nov 2012 12:37 PM
tiamet4     

keypusher: demidog: FTFA: A typical one size fits all nugget from these tomes: Jealousy results from low self-esteem.

Sometimes you know your significant other could have done a lot better than you, and you don't want to lose your lucky break. That lucky break could very well be the only good thing in your life.

I love it when people give examples that reinforce the very point they're trying to refute. As other people have said, your blogs sucks.

I can't speak to the blog, because I can't access it, but there doesn't seem to be anything objectionable in that excerpt. If I think my partner is better than I am, maybe I am right. If I have low self-esteem, maybe it's because I am a worthless piece of crap who should think ill of himself.


Simply because your low self-esteem is valid doesn't mean it's not low self-esteem.

If you are genuinely a lousy person and you know it, jealousy is still not justified. Get off your lazy ass and better yourself or accept the fact that you eventually will and should lose your desirable SO to someone better. If you truly care about someone, you shouldn't want them to spend their lives with an asshole.

I don't understand jealous people and I can't tolerate them in relationships. If you can't trust each other, being together involves far too much work and drama. I'd rather be alone.

05 Nov 2012 12:42 PM
mainsail     
Shakespeare: "thy blog, it doth suck."

05 Nov 2012 12:43 PM
dragonchild     
Your blog is bad and you should feel bad.

05 Nov 2012 12:45 PM
snocone    [TotalFark]  
Psst, secret for you, "low self esteem" is a crock o chit.
Don't be a victim of bullchit spewing con artists repeating crap they have no understanding of.

05 Nov 2012 12:55 PM
Bondith     
the more you eat the more you fart
In the case of men, stop being an emasculated pussy. Realize that you bring certain things to the relationship that no one else can. If she is making you feel like you have to EARN her, then dump the biatch and find someone decent who will respect you and realize that YOU aren't the only lucky person present.

Where was this advice five years ago?

05 Nov 2012 01:05 PM
The more you eat the more you fart     

Bondith: the more you eat the more you fart
In the case of men, stop being an emasculated pussy. Realize that you bring certain things to the relationship that no one else can. If she is making you feel like you have to EARN her, then dump the biatch and find someone decent who will respect you and realize that YOU aren't the only lucky person present.

Where was this advice five years ago?


The good news: Its never too late to rectify a mistake. There's divorce, or you can start acting like you are worth something and you know it.

Personally, I'd go with the second.

Too many men allow the women they are with to act like pampered princesses. YOU shouldn't be doing all the pursuing...and if she acts like you should just be grateful that she's willing to be with someone like you, then I strongly suggest that you either A) turn the tables on her or B) divorce the biatch and show her that SHE is lucky that you have chosen to stay with such a misanthropic biatch for so long.

05 Nov 2012 01:18 PM
Resident Muslim     
I think too many people mistake suspicion for jealousy.

I love it when my SO says "if anyone as much looks in your direction I will hurt them."

It makes me feel attractive, wanted (wantable?!)
:)

05 Nov 2012 01:26 PM
ciberido    [TotalFark]  

REO-Weedwagon: Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.

As a 41-year-old never-married bachelor, I must say this is some of the best advice you'll ever read. All you young Farkers should burn this into your brain.


You two have issues with women. The kind of issues that turn you into a 41-year-old never-married bachelor.

05 Nov 2012 01:51 PM
JackieRabbit     

snocone: Psst, secret for you, "low self esteem" is a crock o chit.
Don't be a victim of bullchit spewing con artists repeating crap they have no understanding of.


Crock of bullchit, huh? Do tell me, if you know what you bring to the game and you know it is good, what possible reason could you have for feeling jealous? The short answer is that you wouldn't have one. Jealousy in a relationship is the product of fear that someone else can take your mate because he/she has something you lack. This is, by its very nature, low self-esteem. People who are sure of themselves don't experience jealousy. There's no reason for them to.

05 Nov 2012 01:54 PM
The more you eat the more you fart     

ciberido: REO-Weedwagon: Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.

As a 41-year-old never-married bachelor, I must say this is some of the best advice you'll ever read. All you young Farkers should burn this into your brain.

You two have issues with women. The kind of issues that turn you into a 41-year-old never-married bachelor.


I lol'd

05 Nov 2012 01:58 PM
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05 Nov 2012 02:52 PM
elchupacabra     

Resident Muslim: I think too many people mistake suspicion for jealousy.

I love it when my SO says "if anyone as much looks in your direction I will hurt them."

It makes me feel attractive, wanted (wantable?!)
:)


Good on you for taking a sociopath out of the dating pool.

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05 Nov 2012 02:58 PM
Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom     

Resident Muslim: I think too many people mistake suspicion for jealousy.

I love it when my SO says "if anyone as much looks in your direction I will hurt them."

It makes me feel attractive, wanted (wantable?!)
:)


You're a Muslim, huh? Shocking

05 Nov 2012 03:00 PM
elchupacabra     

Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: Resident Muslim: I think too many people mistake suspicion for jealousy.

I love it when my SO says "if anyone as much looks in your direction I will hurt them."

It makes me feel attractive, wanted (wantable?!)
:)

You're a Muslim, huh? Shocking


Ugh... At the risk of "White Knighting", I really don't think that's relevant since jealousy is not unique to religion. Leave it alone, dude.

05 Nov 2012 03:13 PM
AbbeySomeone     

Arumat: Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?


If I had to worry about Mr.S. I wouldn't be in a relationship with him. Yeah, he's a good lookin' man but I know he is devoted. Insecurities are not worth time spent.

05 Nov 2012 03:15 PM
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