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15 Nov 2012 12:21 AM   |   21758 clicks   |   Mirror.co.uk
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Mangoose     
He needs to cut his hair and she needs to grow hers out.

14 Nov 2012 09:23 PM
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what_now    [TotalFark]  
"I'm a keen horse rider and he resented the time I spent at the stables," she says. "He started saying I could have half an hour riding before I had to be home.

"I'd find myself rushing back from work or drinks with friends because I knew if I was late there'd be an argument.


You know, he's an asshole, and she needs to grow a pair, but that's not match.com's fault anymore than it would be the fault of the bar where they met, had they met that way.

14 Nov 2012 09:27 PM
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AlwaysRightBoy    [TotalFark]  
I'm just glad I'm not that happily married for so many years so I don't have to deal with this kind of stuff. 

/23 years and still dodging the frying pan

14 Nov 2012 09:41 PM
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The Onion is prophetic     
i4.mirror.co.uk

I didn't know Liev Schreiber went in drag...

14 Nov 2012 09:42 PM
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AbbeySomeone     

what_now: "I'm a keen horse rider and he resented the time I spent at the stables," she says. "He started saying I could have half an hour riding before I had to be home.

"I'd find myself rushing back from work or drinks with friends because I knew if I was late there'd be an argument.


You know, he's an asshole, and she needs to grow a pair, but that's not match.com's fault anymore than it would be the fault of the bar where they met, had they met that way.


There is a reason that people have to resort to online dating. Beware.
Also, if any relationship puts those tyoes of demands on you just leave, there are warning signs.

14 Nov 2012 10:06 PM
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PhiloeBedoe     
In March this year, Sebastiano Mauro, 43, who she had dated for just five months, was jailed for five years after slashing Nathalie's prized horse Jessie and plotting to inflict grievous bodily harm on her too.
i1079.photobucket.com

14 Nov 2012 10:55 PM
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scottydoesntknow    [TotalFark]  

what_now: "I'm a keen horse rider and he resented the time I spent at the stables," she says. "He started saying I could have half an hour riding before I had to be home.

"I'd find myself rushing back from work or drinks with friends because I knew if I was late there'd be an argument.


You know, he's an asshole, and she needs to grow a pair, but that's not match.com's fault anymore than it would be the fault of the bar where they met, had they met that way.


I think she's pissed because they let his profile stay even though she had proof of him bein bat shiat crazy.

It would be like a woman goin to a bar where she met a crazy bastard and warning them about him (with proof) and then lettin him still come in and prowl for women.

They can do what they want, but lettin certifiable crazies isn't good for long term business

14 Nov 2012 11:25 PM
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jaylectricity    [TotalFark]  
One of these days I'm going to read the "favorite thread" list to see all these threads I keep adding to it because I'm just not in the mood to read the link at the moment, but I know I want to read it eventually.

I'm not in the mood right now to read about a traumatized female.

/I suppose that makes this a bookmark

14 Nov 2012 11:29 PM
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Mark Ratner    [TotalFark]  
That's a man, baby. No wonder she had to resort to online dating. The Adam's apple is too noticeable in person.

14 Nov 2012 11:53 PM
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timujin    [TotalFark]  
"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because of internet dating." It's not because of the internet, sweetheart, you can meet assholes anywhere. You could have struck up a conversation with this guy at a coffee shop and he could have been just as charming in person as he was when he contacted you through your profile. Whatever warning signs you missed at the start, you would have missed regardless of how you met.

15 Nov 2012 12:25 AM
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Omahawg     
this man is wrong. she would make a horrible whore. sharp knees. who wants to pay for that?

15 Nov 2012 12:26 AM
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cryinoutloud     
"Over the next week, he wouldn't leave me alone - it was terrifying," she says.
"He left 'I love you' notes on my windscreen, tried to get in my apartment block by pretending to be a cleaner and constantly called and texted me."
But Nathalie refused to rekindle their romance.


Well, there's her problem. It's not called "Dump.com." They have a guarantee.

15 Nov 2012 12:29 AM
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HotWingAgenda    [TotalFark]  
Woman? I call shenanigans.

15 Nov 2012 12:29 AM
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Bit'O'Gristle     
Jesus, this guy is so farking nutz., he makes hannibal look like a boy scout. LIsten sister, don't rely on the police to protect you. You got lucky they caught him. Next time, buy a shotgun, 12 gauge, preferably 00 buck loads. He comes in? Kill his ass. Keep pumping rounds into his prone figure until he stops twitching. Then call the police to come remove his crazy ass corpse.

/end of problem

15 Nov 2012 12:31 AM
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I sound fat     
"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because of internet dating."

No, sorry, you were sucked into an abusive relationship because....SOME PEOPLE ARE ABUSIVE PEOPLE. the internet has nothing to do with it.

15 Nov 2012 12:31 AM
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UltimaCS     
Nathalie

God, why doth thith bother me tho much?

15 Nov 2012 12:32 AM
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othmar     
so.. this means the families will not be having Thanksgiving dinner together?

15 Nov 2012 12:34 AM
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vegaswench    [TotalFark]  
"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because a friend of ours introduced us."

"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because of being neighbors."

"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because of meeting at work."

"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because we met at our mutual kids' Little League game."

"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because of the bar we met at."

"I was sucked into an abusive relationship because we met at a party."

Whatever.

15 Nov 2012 12:35 AM
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AverageAmericanGuy    [TotalFark]  
I hate online dating sites and I've pretty much sworn them off since I had one really bad experience.

I had my picture on my profile and some girl 'winked' at me, so I sent her a quick response with some personal information (what I do for a living, where I live, my educational background, etc), some pictures of myself, and asked her to send back some pictures. She sends me back a 'Thanks, I'll pass' email.

Holy shiat, man. She winks at me and I put myself out there. This woman's only got something like 6 Myspace angle head shots on her profile so she's obviously a cow, but I man up and gave her another chance. Reminded her that she was the one who approached me. If anyone's going to be turning anyone down, it's me, and hey maybe she's actually a nice person, I'm not going to shut someone down without at least giving them a second chance.

And I'm not prejudice against fat chicks. I am a trainer and can see beauty in someone even if they aren't in the best shape. What matters is whether they are trying to better themselves or not. I even offered to give her some free training sessions if she was up for it. No strings attached.

Anyway, I never heard back from that biatch. Just goes to show what kind of losers you'll find on those sites.

15 Nov 2012 12:36 AM
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I sound fat     
AbbeySomeone:


There is a reason that people have to resort to online dating. Beware.


Thats what I would think, if you cant look at the picture and see the reason they are online or read the profile and see the reason they are online, that probably does not mean they are the best catch online.

15 Nov 2012 12:36 AM
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reggaejunkiejew     
Totally man face in the first pic.,.. thought that was gonna be the story. But the ones below that make her look pretty hot actually.

15 Nov 2012 12:36 AM
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I sound fat     
sorry for the bolding, I suck at selective quoting and am too stupid to use the preview button.

15 Nov 2012 12:37 AM
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the_chief     
Same thing happened to me once.

15 Nov 2012 12:37 AM
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strapp3r     
she?

15 Nov 2012 12:37 AM
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funkonomics     
There's a woman somewhere in there, right?

15 Nov 2012 12:38 AM
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AverageAmericanGuy    [TotalFark]  

funkonomics: There's a woman somewhere in there, right?


Yes, in the tie-dyed sleeveless blouse in the back with her chin on her hands.

15 Nov 2012 12:40 AM
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Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom     

The Onion is prophetic: I didn't know Liev Schreiber went in drag...


Two people, and only 1/4 of an upper lip. Shame.

15 Nov 2012 12:41 AM
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gibbon1     

vegaswench: "I was sucked into an abusive relationship because a friend of ours introduced us."


I for one am surprised how often the only person that doesn't know the guy is a total creepazoid is the lucky girl. Me, I've divided a while back to just be blunt.

15 Nov 2012 12:41 AM
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balki1867     

AverageAmericanGuy: I hate online dating sites and I've pretty much sworn them off since I had one really bad experience.

I had my picture on my profile and some girl 'winked' at me, so I sent her a quick response with some personal information (what I do for a living, where I live, my educational background, etc), some pictures of myself, and asked her to send back some pictures. She sends me back a 'Thanks, I'll pass' email.

Holy shiat, man. She winks at me and I put myself out there. This woman's only got something like 6 Myspace angle head shots on her profile so she's obviously a cow, but I man up and gave her another chance. Reminded her that she was the one who approached me. If anyone's going to be turning anyone down, it's me, and hey maybe she's actually a nice person, I'm not going to shut someone down without at least giving them a second chance.

And I'm not prejudice against fat chicks. I am a trainer and can see beauty in someone even if they aren't in the best shape. What matters is whether they are trying to better themselves or not. I even offered to give her some free training sessions if she was up for it. No strings attached.

Anyway, I never heard back from that biatch. Just goes to show what kind of losers you'll find on those sites.


9/10, you could've mentioned what time you had to be at the gym.

15 Nov 2012 12:41 AM
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Glendale     
Maybe it's just a bad picture, but...

upload.wikimedia.org

15 Nov 2012 12:42 AM
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fusillade762    [TotalFark]  
i1.mirror.co.uk

No way a guy with a face like that would ever do anything crazy.

15 Nov 2012 12:44 AM
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Prancemaster     
A friend of mine got engaged to a woman he met on POF. Don't give up.

15 Nov 2012 12:44 AM
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strapp3r     
Hollow-Point Solutions can help

15 Nov 2012 12:44 AM
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strapp3r     

strapp3r: Hollow-Point Solutions can help


they've got a proven 3-point plan: 2 in the chest - 1 in the head

15 Nov 2012 12:45 AM
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Vector R     
FTA: Luckily, police officers doing spot checks on her discovered him lurking outside the apartment. He was armed with a chilling torture kit of knives, screwdrivers, scalpel blades, a tourniquet, latex gloves and syringes filled with his own blood.

Reverse Dexter?

/just shoot him
//FTA guy, not Dexter

15 Nov 2012 12:45 AM
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BeerGraduate     
I feel sorry for her but damn is her picture hideous:
i2.mirror.co.uk

15 Nov 2012 12:47 AM
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Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom     

Prancemaster: A friend of mine got engaged to a woman he met on POF. Don't give up.


Seriously?

15 Nov 2012 12:48 AM
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How's THIS for a fancy nickname     

AverageAmericanGuy: I hate online dating sites and I've pretty much sworn them off since I had one really bad experience.

I had my picture on my profile and some girl 'winked' at me, so I sent her a quick response with some personal information (what I do for a living, where I live, my educational background, etc), some pictures of myself, and asked her to send back some pictures. She sends me back a 'Thanks, I'll pass' email.

Holy shiat, man. She winks at me and I put myself out there. This woman's only got something like 6 Myspace angle head shots on her profile so she's obviously a cow, but I man up and gave her another chance. Reminded her that she was the one who approached me. If anyone's going to be turning anyone down, it's me, and hey maybe she's actually a nice person, I'm not going to shut someone down without at least giving them a second chance.

And I'm not prejudice against fat chicks. I am a trainer and can see beauty in someone even if they aren't in the best shape. What matters is whether they are trying to better themselves or not. I even offered to give her some free training sessions if she was up for it. No strings attached.

Anyway, I never heard back from that biatch. Just goes to show what kind of losers you'll find on those sites.


i47.tinypic.com

Congratulations. You just won at least 10 internets.

15 Nov 2012 12:52 AM
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ozarkmatt    [TotalFark]  

fusillade762: No way a guy with a face like that would ever do anything crazy.


In that pic, he looks like Dennis Quaid when he was a young bad-ass.

/This guy is no Dennis Quaid.

15 Nov 2012 12:53 AM
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SpaceyCat    [TotalFark]  
FTFA: "I was sucked into an abusive relationship because of internet dating."

No, you were sucked into an abusive relationship because you found an abuser attractive. It's not the online dating site's fault you picked a "winner". Man up and put your big girl panties back on. You are responsible for your choices and you actions. So is he. The only thing the dating site did was provided you a means to connect. Most places don't do any verification, let alone criminal history checks. They sure as hell don't do any psychological testing. I have a feeling this bimbo would blame her mother for introducing her to some guy who didn't work out...

15 Nov 2012 12:55 AM
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evilempryss     
She lets him spend the night at her place a few days after meeting him, and she blames the internet for her poor choices? She went back to him repeatedly when she knew he was possessive and abusive because she didn't want to be alone. Take some responsibility! Those choices were hers, not the website's.

And what is the dating site supposed to do, keep staff on hand to go about checking to see if any of their members have been convicted of crimes somewhere in the world so they can pull their profiles? They removed the profile when they were informed that he'd been convicted of a crime. Any action before a conviction would have been wrong and set up a precedent for any disgruntled member to harass the dating site with demands to have people removed for bogus charges.

Her story is tragic, but only in that it shows how far women still need to go to be strong enough to walk away from a bad relationship, to believe that being alone is better than being abused. How he treated her was wrong, but she enabled it to continue for months.

15 Nov 2012 01:01 AM
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INeedAName     

Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: Prancemaster: A friend of mine got engaged to a woman he met on POF. Don't give up.

Seriously?


I have two friends who just got married after meeting online. They're absolutely perfect for each other and I wish them the best.

/Still not sure which site, but knowing them I wouldn't be surprised if it was a game.

15 Nov 2012 01:01 AM
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evilempryss     
Damn, Spaceycat, you beat me to it.

15 Nov 2012 01:03 AM
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funkonomics     

AverageAmericanGuy: funkonomics: There's a woman somewhere in there, right?

Yes, in the tie-dyed sleeveless blouse in the back with her chin on her hands.


Now I see. I couldn't get past that one dude's eyebrows.

15 Nov 2012 01:04 AM
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Tsar_Bomba1     

The Onion is prophetic: [i4.mirror.co.uk image 615x409]

I didn't know Liev Schreiber went in drag...


Even more embarrassing he's dating Mark Anthony...

15 Nov 2012 01:04 AM
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Begoggle     
"Dating sites are great at telling you how they can help you find a lasting relationship or even marriage - but they don't highlight the dangers,"

ANYWHERE you meet someone, they don't highlight the dangers, because you're supposed to be intelligent enough to figure it out yourself.
Meet someone at a bar? Through friends? At church? The grocery store? Same dangers.

15 Nov 2012 01:12 AM
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moothemagiccow     

Begoggle: "Dating sites are great at telling you how they can help you find a lasting relationship or even marriage - but they don't highlight the dangers,"

ANYWHERE you meet someone, they don't highlight the dangers, because you're supposed to be intelligent enough to figure it out yourself.
Meet someone at a bar? Through friends? At church? The grocery store? Same dangers.


Yeah but I heard they still let convicted rapists through all these channels. They must be stopped. For dating!

15 Nov 2012 01:16 AM
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Gyrfalcon     

timujin: "I was sucked into an abusive relationship because of internet dating." It's not because of the internet, sweetheart, you can meet assholes anywhere. You could have struck up a conversation with this guy at a coffee shop and he could have been just as charming in person as he was when he contacted you through your profile. Whatever warning signs you missed at the start, you would have missed regardless of how you met.


Yep. He told you what you wanted to hear, you believed it, and when it got to this point: "He started saying I could have half an hour riding before I had to be home. you said "OK whatever you want" instead of showing him the door. Over and over again.

Now, I work with domestic violence prevention, and I do understand how women get suckered by these predators--but at some point you have to woman up and acknowledge to yourself that nobody makes these decisions but YOU. I will lay dollars to donuts this is not the first such relationship this woman has had, nor will it be the last. Hopefully, she will learn from her mistakes, sooner rather than later, and before she gets hurt worse than a slash to her horse. It has nothing to do with online dating, except that just adds an extra layer to what women believe will keep them safe.

15 Nov 2012 01:23 AM
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HotWingAgenda    [TotalFark]  

Begoggle: "Dating sites are great at telling you how they can help you find a lasting relationship or even marriage - but they don't highlight the dangers,"

ANYWHERE you meet someone, they don't highlight the dangers, because you're supposed to be intelligent enough to figure it out yourself.
Meet someone at a bar? Through friends? At church? The grocery store? Same dangers.


If you meet someone at a church, you will usually be warned about the dangers of sinning.

15 Nov 2012 01:25 AM
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Tenatra     

AverageAmericanGuy: I had my picture on my profile and some girl 'winked' at me, so I sent her a quick response with some personal information (what I do for a living, where I live, my educational background, etc), some pictures of myself, and asked her to send back some pictures. She sends me back a 'Thanks, I'll pass' email.


Too available.

15 Nov 2012 01:29 AM
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