Well, sure, if they're gay and the femme in the relationship... maybe.

I call bullshiat.

Ya, I'm not buying this. Most new marriages, the couple are young, and just starting out in the workforce, the last thing the guy wants is a 10 or 15 k bill to pay off when he's more worried about paying the rent and utilities. I call bullshiat.

They're called bride-zillas for a reason. No one's ever said groom-othra

whither_apophis: They're called bride-zillas for a reason. No one's ever said groom-othra

Ha!

Apotheosis of the UNLIKELY tag

whither_apophis: They're called bride-zillas for a reason. No one's ever said groom-othra

Vs. Mecha-bridezilla!

Female here, and I have always been of the mind that if you pay so much for your wedding that you cannot afford a down payment a home, you're not mature enough to get married. And, if you think your wedding should be the most wonderful day of your life, you have a pretty poor opinion of the marriage is will follow your wedding.

Yeah, right

DeaH: Female here, and I have always been of the mind that if you pay so much for your wedding that you cannot afford a down payment a home, you're not mature enough to get married. And, if you think your wedding should be the most wonderful day of your life, you have a pretty poor opinion of the marriage is will follow your wedding.

"...is will follow..."?

Please,

Thank you.

even ric romero is calling bullshiat on this one.

There's an inverse relationship between the amount of money you spend on the wedding and the length of the marriage.

/EVERY day is "my special day all about me," dammit

Indubitably: DeaH: Female here, and I have always been of the mind that if you pay so much for your wedding that you cannot afford a down payment a home, you're not mature enough to get married. And, if you think your wedding should be the most wonderful day of your life, you have a pretty poor opinion of the marriage is will follow your wedding.

"...is will follow..."?

Please,

Thank you.

Yeah, bad on my part. Should be "of the marriage that will follow your wedding."

/should NEVER hit "Add Comment" after editing a sentence on the fly.
//hangs head in shame

sounds legit

in bizzaro world

I don't understand weddings. I do like receptions where you can dance and have food with your family and friends though. Maybe a Halloween wedding wouldn't be so bad if everybody could dress up and maybe some people did the thriller dance. Yeah, with my ideas I should just start stocking up on cats .... But I'm having a hard time thinking guys are into big fairly tale weddings. Maybe they want to show off? I don't know.

I don't know how common it is, but my husband wanted a fancier wedding than I did. I wanted to get married in the yard with a tea and cookie reception. That didn't fly with either him or his mother. We paid for our own wedding. My parents would have sooner committed suicide than help with the expenses. He convinced me I would be happy with the decision years later, flipping through the album of wedding pictures. That might have been nice had the photographer deemed to take pictures of me that involved clothes. Despite my request that she stay out of the dressing area, she brought me an album full of "tasteful" pictures she'd snapped unnoticed while I was dressing. They are disgusting. Most of the remaining photographs are of my SIL. There were so many photographs of my SIL, my MIL actually got upset about it. Now, the entire album is stuffed out of sight. I won't keep it anywhere that might induce someone to look at it.

To be fair, I DID want a stripper to be the flower girl.

bullshiat. men are not groomed from infancy to plan their fairytale weddings in which they are the star of the show.

this will be the last bastion of inequality. once the wedding industry dies then, and only then, will we truly be post-gender.

I dunno. I'd kind of like *one* of my weddings to be of the fairy tale variety. Change is sometimes good.

The most interesting wedding reception I went to is where the groom and bride were already arguing about shiat. College friends who got married and they were both crazy. Tried to hook up with her long after they had separated and all she would go on about is her ex, and how he ruined her sex life.

Yeah, she was throwing me a hint and a half, but she was really nuts. Would not stop talking about him and besides she was unreliable. Always extremely late for dates.

I am casting my vote in with the UNLIKELY crowd here too, but mileage is going to vary with both men and women. Despite all the horror stories we see around here all the time, I think its only a few crazy biatches who demand an insane lavish wedding. My relatively sane, stable friends and I all just want to laugh and have a good time with our family and friends to mark the start of a big change in our lives, if we think its the right choice for us.

Snarcoleptic_Hoosier: To be fair, I DID want a stripper to be the flower girl.

Or vice versa.

I can believe this.

The key to understanding this is that there probably was no definition of what a "fairytale wedding" entails.
What a random guy considers to be a "fairytale" might entirely fly below some bridezilla's radar.

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAH AHAHAH

*gasp*

HAHAHAHAHAHHAAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAAHA HHAHAA

My husband wanted the big wedding, not me. I only agreed to it because our parents were willing to pay for it. Of course it's always more stressful for a woman than the man. A man just has to show up on time in a nice suit.

DeaH: Indubitably: DeaH: Female here, and I have always been of the mind that if you pay so much for your wedding that you cannot afford a down payment a home, you're not mature enough to get married. And, if you think your wedding should be the most wonderful day of your life, you have a pretty poor opinion of the marriage is will follow your wedding.

"...is will follow..."?

Please,

Thank you.

Yeah, bad on my part. Should be "of the marriage that will follow your wedding."

/should NEVER hit "Add Comment" after editing a sentence on the fly.
//hangs head in shame

Indubitably just gave someone shiat about their post not making sense.

Indubitably.

Now I've seen everything.

AutumnWind: I don't understand weddings. I do like receptions where you can dance and have food with your family and friends though. Maybe a Halloween wedding wouldn't be so bad if everybody could dress up and maybe some people did the thriller dance. Yeah, with my ideas I should just start stocking up on cats .... But I'm having a hard time thinking guys are into big fairly tale weddings. Maybe they want to show off? I don't know.

shiat I should've married you two and a half weeks ago. I did this but no one reminded me to queue up Thriller.

Lollipop165: Of course it's always more stressful for a woman than the man. A man just has to show up on time in a nice suit.

If only. He's gotta hear about every detail the bride is obsessing over and pretend he cares too.

Much like being kicked in the junk, this is a pain women will never understand.

DeaH: Female here, and I have always been of the mind that if you pay so much for your wedding that you cannot afford a down payment a home, you're not mature enough to get married. And, if you think your wedding should be the most wonderful day of your life, you have a pretty poor opinion of the marriage is will follow your wedding., want to see my boobs? EIP.

FTFUs

TiiiMMMaHHH: DeaH: Female here, and I have always been of the mind that if you pay so much for your wedding that you cannot afford a down payment a home, you're not mature enough to get married. And, if you think your wedding should be the most wonderful day of your life, you have a pretty poor opinion of the marriage is will follow your wedding., want to see my boobs? EIP.

FTFUs

Clever.

/not really

Lunaville: I don't know how common it is, but my husband wanted a fancier wedding than I did. I wanted to get married in the yard with a tea and cookie reception. That didn't fly with either him or his mother. We paid for our own wedding. My parents would have sooner committed suicide than help with the expenses. He convinced me I would be happy with the decision years later, flipping through the album of wedding pictures. That might have been nice had the photographer deemed to take pictures of me that involved clothes. Despite my request that she stay out of the dressing area, she brought me an album full of "tasteful" pictures she'd snapped unnoticed while I was dressing. They are disgusting. Most of the remaining photographs are of my SIL. There were so many photographs of my SIL, my MIL actually got upset about it. Now, the entire album is stuffed out of sight. I won't keep it anywhere that might induce someone to look at it.

You should submit that story to Ettiquette Hell. (Warning, site is a Time Sink.)

Everybody here is focused on the wedding. The point is, nobody gets the wedding in the divorce.

so who wanted the simple wedding??

AutumnWind
But I'm having a hard time thinking guys are into big fairly tale weddings. Maybe they want to show off?

Yeah maybe; having been taught every woman wants to be a princess, they assume she is only pretending and so they insist.
You know, somewhat like the modern woman offering to split the tab and the man being farked if he doesn't do the old gentlemanly thing and refuses..with the added difficulty that there's an audience if it's a wedding instead of a private dinner for two.

Dear Jerk: Everybody here is focused on the wedding. The point is, nobody gets the wedding in the divorce.

If we ever divorce, I'll likely gift the wedding albums to my husband though.

TiiiMMMaHHH: DeaH: Female here, and I have always been of the mind that if you pay so much for your wedding that you cannot afford a down payment a home, you're not mature enough to get married. And, if you think your wedding should be the most wonderful day of your life, you have a pretty poor opinion of the marriage is will follow your wedding., want to see my boobs? EIP.

FTFUs

I'm fifty. You don't.

Lunaville
If we ever divorce, I'll likely gift the wedding albums to my husband though.

Keep them. You can count it as a liability against your assets.
Just kidding. Don't divorce the poor sap. You're all he ever wanted and he's trying his best.

This was my experience. My husband didn't want a fairy tale wedding, but he wanted to invite lots of extended family and friends and "do things right". My parents had a 20 person ceremony in the garden with dinner at a nice restaurant after and, while I loved our wedding, I would also have been happy with that.

\Don't let the article fool you. For men "do things right" doesn't mean guys are clipping out pages in bridal magazines. It more means "Honey, I want a nice wedding, whatever that means. Use your uterus powers to organize something better than having it in the backyard. kthanx."

Almost invariably when a girl gets the fairy tale wedding someone else is paying for it. Mom and dad, future hubby, whoever... once the money is coming out of her own pocket and future she will very suddenly get a lot more practical.

Of course, that pretty much goes for everyone, doesn't it?

All I want is a cigar bar and a keg of Pilsner Urquell.

It makes sense. For the groom, the wedding will be the peak of his relationship with his bride. It will be down hill from there. As for the house, he won't get to keep it after the divorce so why bother buying it? The woman is going into the marriage as an investment, so a house makes perfect sense.

/bitter? me?

Since there's no mention in the headline of male what or female what I'll just assume the article is about the preference of imaginary Roman gods. Subby needs more nouns, fewer adjectives. Link

JesseL: Lollipop165: Of course it's always more stressful for a woman than the man. A man just has to show up on time in a nice suit.

If only. He's gotta hear about every detail the bride is obsessing over and pretend he cares too.

Much like being kicked in the junk, this is a pain women will never understand.

This this this this THIS!

I'm surprised nobody has brought up that this is a UK thing, not necessarily a US thing. Perhaps the data is skewed by the men who budget dental work into their weddings, then it would make sense.

/Getting married in June
//She's planning it, I'm paying for it
///Just direct me to the altar and the alcohol (in no particular order)
///Slashies!!!

Oh wow, is there anything the Dailymail won't shiat on and call it the truth?

Lunaville: I don't know how common it is, but my husband wanted a fancier wedding than I did. I wanted to get married in the yard with a tea and cookie reception. That didn't fly with either him or his mother. We paid for our own wedding. My parents would have sooner committed suicide than help with the expenses. He convinced me I would be happy with the decision years later, flipping through the album of wedding pictures. That might have been nice had the photographer deemed to take pictures of me that involved clothes. Despite my request that she stay out of the dressing area, she brought me an album full of "tasteful" pictures she'd snapped unnoticed while I was dressing. They are disgusting. Most of the remaining photographs are of my SIL. There were so many photographs of my SIL, my MIL actually got upset about it. Now, the entire album is stuffed out of sight. I won't keep it anywhere that might induce someone to look at it.

I find it odd that you describe pictures of yourself partially clothed on your wedding day as "disgusting." I understand they were basically taken against your will and see how that could be upsetting, but I like to think at least on a woman's wedding day she might have a better opinion of her body.

Lady Beryl Ersatz-Wendigo: There's an inverse relationship between the amount of money you spend on the wedding and the length of the marriage.

/EVERY day is "my special day all about me," dammit

I spent more on the three rings than I did on the wedding. Farking gold is expensive these days. $750 for 3 rings? Sheesh. My first set of rings cost $60 total.

Ugh, weddings. Mine is going to be in front of a Justice of the Peace with family. Everybody else can party at the reception. Nobody cares about the actual ceremony.

What do you expect? The "women's movement" from the 70's on has done nothing
but castrate men, shows like The Oprah, Dr Phil et al, just tell everyone that men
need to "fem down". Bunch of horse squeeze.

skinink: The most interesting wedding reception I went to is where the groom and bride were already arguing about shiat. College friends who got married and they were both crazy. Tried to hook up with her long after they had separated and all she would go on about is her ex, and how he ruined her sex life.

Yeah, she was throwing me a hint and a half, but she was really nuts. Would not stop talking about him and besides she was unreliable. Always extremely late for dates.

So...were you his friend or hers?

I kinda want a wedding but I don't want to deal with...well, anyone I'm related to.