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28 Nov 2012 10:50 AM   |   26186 clicks   |   Yahoo
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Shadow Blasko     
Dude...

Get over it.

You weren't her first, and probably not her best, but you have things about you that make her want to be with you... so shut the hell up and enjoy the life you have now... lest you find yourself pining for what you have lost.

28 Nov 2012 08:45 AM
grokca    [TotalFark]  
He could have mentioned her name so we could properly assess whether he should be able to handle it.

28 Nov 2012 08:55 AM
naughtyrev    [TotalFark]  
Also dude, how did you find out?

28 Nov 2012 08:56 AM
basemetal    [TotalFark]  
Dude was probably surfing porn and stumbled upon his wife being spit roasted and basted.

/awkward

28 Nov 2012 09:01 AM
Cythraul     
I wish I could be so picky. If it were me, I'd be content that she'd left that career in her past. However, not sure if I could date a current rather than a former porn star. That would probably be a bit difficult to someone who usually believes in monogamy, such as I.

28 Nov 2012 09:09 AM
whistleridge    [TotalFark]  
Depends on the type of porn.

Run-of-the-mill "college girls gets boinked and spooged on by some dude" porn: meh. Whatever. She's just doing what pretty much every girl with her boyfriend these days, but she did it on camera for money.

Hardcore gangbanging/group sex/getting a train run/blowing 8 or 10 guys: not so cool. You're getting tested, STAT. And then I probably need a few weeks to get the images out of my head. Sorry, but that's just me.

Donkey porn/two girls one cup stuff/hard BDSM: it's probably over. I'm not judging, but...if you can do that sort of thing, you are 1) clearly not the person I thought you were/you advertised yourself to be, and 2) not the sort of person I probably want to be with. I would hear you out, but the odds wouldn't be in your favor.

28 Nov 2012 09:14 AM
Cythraul     

whistleridge: Depends on the type of porn.

Run-of-the-mill "college girls gets boinked and spooged on by some dude" porn: meh. Whatever. She's just doing what pretty much every girl with her boyfriend these days, but she did it on camera for money.

Hardcore gangbanging/group sex/getting a train run/blowing 8 or 10 guys: not so cool. You're getting tested, STAT. And then I probably need a few weeks to get the images out of my head. Sorry, but that's just me.

Donkey porn/two girls one cup stuff/hard BDSM: it's probably over. I'm not judging, but...if you can do that sort of thing, you are 1) clearly not the person I thought you were/you advertised yourself to be, and 2) not the sort of person I probably want to be with. I would hear you out, but the odds wouldn't be in your favor.


What's wrong with a little BDSM? I don't think any middle class home without a sex dungeon is complete.

28 Nov 2012 09:19 AM
UberDave    [TotalFark]  

Cythraul: What's wrong with a little BDSM? I don't think any middle class home without a sex dungeon is complete.


After my son was born, I had to turn mine into a computer room.

28 Nov 2012 09:28 AM
whistleridge    [TotalFark]  

Cythraul: What's wrong with a little BDSM? I don't think any middle class home without a sex dungeon is complete.


I know you're being tongue in cheek, but it's still a valid question, so...

Light BDSM: not my thing, but if you were into it, whatever.

Heavy BDSM: definitely not my thing, and I am in no way attracted to someone who wants to be that dominant, that passive, or that into pain. I don't judge, but I don't want it either, and if I'm not judging you, kindly return the favor.

If you were into big time and then you were like 'you know what? no...that's just not my thing' and that's why you quit, we'll be ok. But if you're still really into and you're secretly tamping it down in the hopes that one day I might get into it too...that's a problem. I don't want to be with someone I can't fulfill, and if a major part of your sexuality isn't being touched, I think it's inevitable that you will be strongly tempted to cheat. And I don't want that either. Odds wouldn't be good.

But in fairness, that's less about the porn aspect that it is about the incompatible sexuality aspect.

28 Nov 2012 09:30 AM
Sybarite    [TotalFark]  
That's definitely a before marriage kind of revelation.

28 Nov 2012 09:50 AM
Cythraul     

Sybarite: That's definitely a before marriage kind of revelation.


Not if you want to have a marriage.

28 Nov 2012 09:53 AM
slayer199    [TotalFark]  
Hey, he should be looking at the bright side. If she says she wouldn't do xyz he can say, "Yes you can...you did it in College Sluts Vol 31!" If she did 10-20 pornos, odds are she was doing some serious hardcore at that point...and if you're lucky some lesbian porn to boot.

Seriously, she did it when she was 19...dude, get over it. I can understand the disappointment of NOT being told, but she was probably too ashamed to tell the man she loved. Of course, you have more important things to worry about...like your kids seeing mom get screwed by men that aren't their father. You'll have to find a way to deal with that because they WILL find it eventually. The thing about internet porn...it never goes away.

I'm just waiting for some intrepid farker to figure out who this lady is. She was 19, 13 years ago (which means it's 1999-2000) and did 10-20 pornos.

28 Nov 2012 09:59 AM
Shadow Blasko     

slayer199: I'm just waiting for some intrepid farker to figure out who this lady is. She was 19, 13 years ago (which means it's 1999-2000) and did 10-20 pornos.


Well that narrows it down to 300 or 400 women... and that is just the Americans.

28 Nov 2012 10:06 AM
SurfaceTension    [TotalFark]  

Cythraul: What's wrong with a little BDSM? I don't think any middle class home without a sex dungeon is complete.


When I win the lotto tonight, the house I build is going to just be one large bdsm dungeon with all the trimmings.

28 Nov 2012 10:06 AM
SurfaceTension    [TotalFark]  

Cythraul: Sybarite: That's definitely a before marriage kind of revelation.

Not if you want to have a marriage.


All kidding aside, I'd find it a little bit hot that my woman did that in a former lifetime. And unlike the guy above, I wouldn't care what she'd done. It doesn't matter who was there before me, just that I'm the last.

28 Nov 2012 10:09 AM
Cythraul     

SurfaceTension: Cythraul: Sybarite: That's definitely a before marriage kind of revelation.

Not if you want to have a marriage.

All kidding aside, I'd find it a little bit hot that my woman did that in a former lifetime. And unlike the guy above, I wouldn't care what she'd done. It doesn't matter who was there before me, just that I'm the last.


All kidding aside, I agree. I think this is a case of insecurity on the part of the male.

Unless you lived a puritanical life in your late teens and twenties, chances are, you're going to have a sexual past when you find the one you want to settle down with. Most couples I know of have a rule of 'lets just acknowledge that we were not angels before we met and not go into great detail about the who and whats we've done.'

The biggest difference here, and I admit that it's not insignificant, is that this woman's sexual past was recorded and sold. If he loves her, and this is in her past, why would he allow it to be such a insurmountable obstacle in their relationship? I can understand if he's worried about how confusing it will eventually be to his children. But I imagine this is mostly due to insecurity spawned from some outdated ideology that a man is allowed to have sexual conquests in his past, while his life mate is expected to have been a virginal flower up until the wedding night.

28 Nov 2012 10:18 AM
slayer199    [TotalFark]  

Shadow Blasko: Well that narrows it down to 300 or 400 women... and that is just the Americans.


Actually, it's the number of pornos that she did in one year. It meant she must have been fairly popular for a year. It would be nearly impossible to find her if she only did 2 or 3. But if she did 10 or 20...should narrow it down a bit. And I'm assuming she's American which narrows it down further.

28 Nov 2012 10:27 AM
Slives    [TotalFark]  
The guy mentions that they both have kids from previous marriages, so he knew she was not a virgin going into this.
So I am wondering if he is one of those 'deeply faithful, no sex outside of marriage' types and believed or told that she was the same, until this evidence came up.

Things would be lot clearer if he made some effort to explain why it bothered him. Until then we have to assume he is jealously assuming that she is daydreaming about her past partners because they have bigger dicks.

28 Nov 2012 10:42 AM
themasterdebater     

grokca: He could have mentioned her name so we could properly assess whether he should be able to handle it.


This.

It was the only reason why I read the entire "letter". TFA does NOT deliver.

28 Nov 2012 10:52 AM
WhippingBoy     
People are judged by their character? Color me shocked!

28 Nov 2012 10:53 AM
darth_badger     
RULE 34 = your wife



/lol

28 Nov 2012 10:56 AM
GhostfacedFiddlah     
Just to get this out of the way,

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28 Nov 2012 10:57 AM
Psycoholic_Slag     
"Dear Abby"

Stopped reading right there.

Same as "Dear Penthouse"

28 Nov 2012 10:57 AM
bacongood     
10-20?

So she had a job over one winter break, get over it.

28 Nov 2012 10:57 AM
HindiDiscoMonster     
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28 Nov 2012 10:57 AM
GhostfacedFiddlah     
And next time, I might even read the headline I'm on before I post!

28 Nov 2012 10:57 AM
IAmRight     

Slives: The guy mentions that they both have kids from previous marriages, so he knew she was not a virgin going into this.


There's quite a difference between knowing something has happened and seeing it happen.

28 Nov 2012 10:58 AM
HindiDiscoMonster     

GhostfacedFiddlah: Just to get this out of the way,

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28 Nov 2012 10:59 AM
Aidan     

Cythraul: All kidding aside, I agree. I think this is a case of insecurity on the part of the male.


*raises eyebrow*

I didn't get that out of his comments. I thought they were pretty damn cogent.

If my husband did sheiss porn at some point in the past, I'd what to know what mental chain of events lead him to marry me and not flippin' tell me about it. I'd like all the information to make my own decisions. Plus, the idea that some time in the future he'd desperately wish I'd do something I really don't want to do and that it may put a huge wedge in our relationship? Definitely something I'd want to avoid.

28 Nov 2012 11:00 AM
jso2897    [TotalFark]  

GhostfacedFiddlah: Just to get this out of the way,

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28 Nov 2012 11:02 AM
Debeo Summa Credo     

GhostfacedFiddlah: Just to get this out of the way,


I'm sure the guy will be able to get over the fact that his wife did ATM on video that is out there for the world to see now that he knows global warming has been predicted since the 70s. Whew.

28 Nov 2012 11:02 AM
Old_Chief_Scott     

whistleridge: Depends on the type of porn.

Run-of-the-mill "college girls gets boinked and spooged on by some dude" porn: meh. Whatever. She's just doing what pretty much every girl with her boyfriend these days, but she did it on camera for money.

Hardcore gangbanging/group sex/getting a train run/blowing 8 or 10 guys: not so cool. You're getting tested, STAT. And then I probably need a few weeks to get the images out of my head. Sorry, but that's just me.

Donkey porn/two girls one cup stuff/hard BDSM: it's probably over. I'm not judging, but...if you can do that sort of thing, you are 1) clearly not the person I thought you were/you advertised yourself to be, and 2) not the sort of person I probably want to be with. I would hear you out, but the odds wouldn't be in your favor.


Man, what a prude.

28 Nov 2012 11:03 AM
BarkingUnicorn     

Cythraul: Sybarite: That's definitely a before marriage kind of revelation.

Not if you want to have a marriage.


Depends on what kind of marriage you want.

Eight years ago, at age 19? I'd be OK with that. I'd want HIV testing just to cover that base. Then I'd file the info away under, "My wife's childhood memories."

28 Nov 2012 11:03 AM
kvinesknows     
Dude.. she made 10 to 20 porn videos? Okay... thats a problem that she dont remember the number,.

but dude. DUDE!! she chose you.. thats gotta be a confidence booster. YOU.. YOU are the one she wants after taking all those various dicks. DUDE.. you are LEGEND!

also..hey.. you know those kids and that previous marriage? those had farking her happening as well.

28 Nov 2012 11:04 AM
G.I.R.B.     

GhostfacedFiddlah: Just to get this out of the way,

[i.imgur.com image 461x382]


We're talking about "porn" NOT "pirates"!

/get with the program

28 Nov 2012 11:04 AM
garandman1a     
Methinks he didn't really state why he has a problem with this.

Married for 8 years. I seriously doubt he's getting the action he wants. She is his wife, not his girlfriend. She's pretty much banged anyone for money on camera, and with what he's paying to support her he can't get what they got for a few hundred dollars.

All married men come to this realization at some time. His is just more obvious since its out there for the world to see. He has proof of the issue, the rest of us know it but can't prove it.

28 Nov 2012 11:04 AM
HindiDiscoMonster     

Aidan: Cythraul: All kidding aside, I agree. I think this is a case of insecurity on the part of the male.

*raises eyebrow*

I didn't get that out of his comments. I thought they were pretty damn cogent.

If my husband did sheiss porn at some point in the past, I'd what to know what mental chain of events lead him to marry me and not flippin' tell me about it. I'd like all the information to make my own decisions. Plus, the idea that some time in the future he'd desperately wish I'd do something I really don't want to do and that it may put a huge wedge in our relationship? Definitely something I'd want to avoid.


NSFW

28 Nov 2012 11:04 AM
Orgasmatron138     
Life is too short to worry about this shiat.

28 Nov 2012 11:05 AM
asquian     
Dude, you know why she didn't tell you about them? Because you'd react like this.

28 Nov 2012 11:06 AM
Even With A Chainsaw     

Slives: The guy mentions that they both have kids from previous marriages, so he knew she was not a virgin going into this.
So I am wondering if he is one of those 'deeply faithful, no sex outside of marriage' types and believed or told that she was the same, until this evidence came up.

Things would be lot clearer if he made some effort to explain why it bothered him. Until then we have to assume he is jealously assuming that she is daydreaming about her past partners because they have much bigger dicks.


ftfy

28 Nov 2012 11:08 AM
Zion21     
Definitely gotta get over it.
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28 Nov 2012 11:09 AM
pnome     
I'd be fine with it. Heck, I'd want to have the movies on the TV in the bedroom while we do a re-enactment! Sounds fun!

28 Nov 2012 11:10 AM
Butthurted     

whistleridge: Depends on the type of porn.

Run-of-the-mill "college girls gets boinked and spooged on by some dude" porn: meh. Whatever. She's just doing what pretty much every girl with her boyfriend these days, but she did it on camera for money.

Hardcore gangbanging/group sex/getting a train run/blowing 8 or 10 guys: not so cool. You're getting tested, STAT. And then I probably need a few weeks to get the images out of my head. Sorry, but that's just me.

Donkey porn/two girls one cup stuff/hard BDSM: it's probably over. I'm not judging, but...if you can do that sort of thing, you are 1) clearly not the person I thought you were/you advertised yourself to be, and 2) not the sort of person I probably want to be with. I would hear you out, but the odds wouldn't be in your favor.


WHOA...WHOA...WHOA!!! So you are saying, and correct me If I have this wrong, that if you found out that a potential bride of yours had done some donkey porn, that would be a deal breaker???? Wow...check out Mr. High Standards here. Keep setting that bar so high and you will never find a mate.

Seriously, the dude in TFA needs to keep perspective in all this. He fell in love, he is happy, why over think this. Yea, so the missus wasn't always the Sunday School teacher he thought. Sure, in hindsight it would have nice to have been in the loop on the details before the "I DOs" but it beats finding out she was a meth head who had her kids taken away after getting busted selling her ass in a back alley. If he had backed out before the nuptials, he probably would have regretted for the rest of his days, giving up on the person that makes him happy

28 Nov 2012 11:12 AM
JackieRabbit     
This has nothing whatsoever to do with his being upset that she had had sex with other men before him, folks. No one expects their girlfriend or wife-to-be to be a virgin these days. She made porno movies -- several of them. He had a right to know of this sordid past before they married and she withheld the information. He was denied the opportunity to either come to terms with this information or walk away before he made several life altering decisions. He has every right to be upset and most of us would be too. If he can find out about this, their children most assuredly will. It's inevitable.

28 Nov 2012 11:13 AM
Magorn    [TotalFark]  
I've said it before and I'll say it again. When you get into a relationship with somone your have a claim on their future, but none at all on their past. If you like who they are now, then everything that's behind them had something to do with that. if they want to share, cool, but if not, unless it affects your health or safety, it's nunya bidness.

28 Nov 2012 11:13 AM
minoridiot     
I married a 19 year-old stripper before she had a chance to make any porn. I'm kind of sad.

28 Nov 2012 11:14 AM
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28 Nov 2012 11:15 AM
elffster     
Hes mad cuz she wants to peg him, I guess.

28 Nov 2012 11:16 AM
basemetal    [TotalFark]  
He's just pissed because shew wont do THAT with him.

28 Nov 2012 11:17 AM
blatz514    [TotalFark]  

kvinesknows: Dude.. she made 10 to 20 porn videos? Okay... thats a problem that she dont remember the number,.

but dude. DUDE!! she chose you.. thats gotta be a confidence booster. YOU.. YOU are the one she wants after taking all those various dicks. DUDE.. you are LEGEND!

also..hey.. you know those kids and that previous marriage? those had farking her happening as well.


Your post made my head hurt worse than it already is.

28 Nov 2012 11:17 AM
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