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   Modern parenting hinders brain development. This explains quite a bit

07 Jan 2013 04:57 PM   |   12630 clicks   |   Science Daily
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BumpInTheNight     
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07 Jan 2013 04:43 PM
Raptop     
I call BS

07 Jan 2013 05:02 PM
detroitdoesntsuckthatbad     
Spank your horrible children.

07 Jan 2013 05:05 PM
Occam's Disposable Razor     
This is one dude from a Catholic college who is described as "professor of psychology who specializes in moral development in children." I imagine his entire job is basically finding data to keep his panties in a wad.

07 Jan 2013 05:05 PM
had98c     
An article trying to tell me how to raise my kid? Get bent article writer.

/USA!

07 Jan 2013 05:07 PM
LowbrowDeluxe     

Occam's Disposable Razor: This is one dude from a Catholic college who is described as "professor of psychology who specializes in moral development in children." I imagine his entire job is basically finding data to keep his panties in a wad.


I'm going to go with this explanation.

07 Jan 2013 05:08 PM
jayhawk88    [TotalFark]  
You see? You let Sociology departments on college campuses go unchallenged, and this is the kind of crap you get!

07 Jan 2013 05:11 PM
12349876     

detroitdoesntsuckthatbad: Spank your horrible children.


Someone didn't RTFA.

And for all those who also won't, this article is arguing for MORE nurturing for the infants. More breast feeding, more physical contact, less sleeping alone and 'crying it out'.

07 Jan 2013 05:12 PM
gaspode     
I would venture that impaired brain development causes a lot of modern parenting..

07 Jan 2013 05:13 PM
Moonfisher     
I nursed mine, let them sleep between us when they wanted to and quickly learned how to keep them content so they scarcely cried. I had a few jackasses warn me about how they would become clingy and spoiled and never develop independence. They are now 6 and 4, share a room, make their own sandwiches, and their teachers report that they are well-behaved, self-motivated and sweet. It's almost like treating your kids like kids and making them feel secure helps them become confident and considerate. Studies have proven time and again that comforting your children and having physical contact with them boosts IQ and emotional stability.

07 Jan 2013 05:14 PM
phlegmmo    [TotalFark]  
"Leaving me to just 'cry it out'? Oh, you'll pay for this... you'll all pay."
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07 Jan 2013 05:15 PM
iaazathot     
My wife and I let our daughter sleep with us until she was 18 months old. We just weaned her at two and a half, and she gets a lot of physical contact from us and others in the form of hugs, sitting in our laps reading, and snuggling in bed with us after she wakes up.

The one thing everyone says about her is how happy and outgoing she is and easy to deal with. Although we get some acting out behavior associated with her being 2+, she is a dream to be around 95% of the time and seems far ahead of a lot of the other kids in her daycare in language, counting, and social interaction.

We specifically thought about many of the things this article mentions and decided to not follow common child rearing practices. So far so good.

07 Jan 2013 05:15 PM
that was my nickname in highschool     
Teh article in a nutshell: Multiple variables influence multiple outcomes in a heterogeneous population experiencing various outside influences over long periods of time.

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07 Jan 2013 05:16 PM
The My Little Pony Killer    [TotalFark]  
I have a cousin who has a baby and one on the way. The baby recently stopped breastfeeding (on his own), but she has expressed hope that he would want to pick it back up again when he sees his new sibling doing it. Sometimes, you need to just learn to let go.

07 Jan 2013 05:16 PM
Frankenstorm     
Zombie parenting encourages a hunger for knowledge.

07 Jan 2013 05:16 PM
Summer Glau's Love Slave     
One of the things that amazed me the most about living at college was how inept many of my fellow students are. I've had housemates who literally had no idea how to operate a stove or a washing machine. I have a roomie who believes with all his heart that you just dump the frozen orange juice into the pitcher and drink the syrup without adding a drop of water. He set himself on fire last fall because he tried to start a fire by pouring a quart of gasoline on the wood before kneeling down to light it.

I've seen (and smelled) other kids who would go an entire semester without cleaning their clothes or bathing their bods. One of guys who lives across from me ruined a brand new car because he poured water into the oil intake when his car started running hot. And just a few days ago, a girl in who lives on my block shattered her windshield when she used a pan of boiling water to de-ice her windshield.

/And when you ask, Mommy and Daddy did everything for them at home.
//Never a dull moment.
///Feeling a little smug now.
////I get money to sew on buttons and repair clothes, because I'm bootstrappy.

07 Jan 2013 05:17 PM
KatjaMouse     
My mom was considered something of a revolutionary when she told her friends that she intended to breast feed. However, apparently, I was having none of it and opted for starvation for the better part of my first week of life until my grandmother came over with a pallet of formula.

I also hated it when my parents showed me spontaneous affection. It's a miracle I didn't grow up and become a serial killer.

07 Jan 2013 05:18 PM
GF named my left testicle thundercles     
i read somewhere that not comforting your baby with touching and caring triggers its brain to prepare for harcore survival mode. its brain thinks that the parents are stressed out and the environment is a shiathole so the brain makes the kid turn into a badass farker to prepare for life in said hellhole.

07 Jan 2013 05:18 PM
lohphat    [TotalFark]  

12349876: detroitdoesntsuckthatbad: Spank your horrible children.

Someone didn't RTFA.

And for all those who also won't, this article is arguing for MORE nurturing for the infants. More breast feeding, more physical contact, less sleeping alone and 'crying it out'.


Spanking IS "more physical contact". Duh.

07 Jan 2013 05:19 PM
phlegmmo    [TotalFark]  

Summer Glau's Love Slave: I have a roomie who believes with all his heart that you just dump the frozen orange juice into the pitcher and drink the syrup without adding a drop of water. He set himself on fire last fall because he tried to start a fire by pouring a quart of gasoline on the wood before kneeling down to light it.

 

Get out now before he kills you both.

07 Jan 2013 05:20 PM
lohphat    [TotalFark]  
What are you supposed to do with a infant or toddler that sleeps only 3 hours at a time as is prone to tantrums? Go without sleep and then go over the edge and kill it?

Natural selection at work, I guess. Problematic infants were a burden to the tribe and were abandoned.

Now we "nurture" them and their psychopathic behavior allowing them to procreate when they get older, perpetuating the bad genes.

That's why we have so many CEO-types infecting or society.

/amidoingitriteguise?

07 Jan 2013 05:22 PM
Thraeryn     
So: act like you love your kid and it'll develop well.

Nice work there, Lou.

07 Jan 2013 05:23 PM
Pinner     
I've been a hands off parent.
My kids fall asleep when they are ready to go down. Sometimes on the floor at the movies, or at school, where they get As and Bs. They cry uncontrollably for some reason when they hear sirens, enjoy sticking firecrackers in frogs' mouths in the summer and laugh when fat people fall down on You Tube. The only time they shake hands is if they are making a bet, and rarely make eye contact. They always seem to have money.

07 Jan 2013 05:23 PM
LarryDan43     

Summer Glau's Love Slave: One of the things that amazed me the most about living at college was how inept many of my fellow students are. I've had housemates who literally had no idea how to operate a stove or a washing machine. I have a roomie who believes with all his heart that you just dump the frozen orange juice into the pitcher and drink the syrup without adding a drop of water. He set himself on fire last fall because he tried to start a fire by pouring a quart of gasoline on the wood before kneeling down to light it.

I've seen (and smelled) other kids who would go an entire semester without cleaning their clothes or bathing their bods. One of guys who lives across from me ruined a brand new car because he poured water into the oil intake when his car started running hot. And just a few days ago, a girl in who lives on my block shattered her windshield when she used a pan of boiling water to de-ice her windshield.

/And when you ask, Mommy and Daddy did everything for them at home.
//Never a dull moment.
///Feeling a little smug now.
////I get money to sew on buttons and repair clothes, because I'm bootstrappy.


We are Penn State.

07 Jan 2013 05:24 PM
ringersol     
TFA: "Also, early deficits can be made up later, she says."

... doesn't this basically throw out the entire argument?
"If you're not doing X, the child's gonna turn out wrong. Unless, of course, you do X later. Then they'll be fine."

That seems to suggest the car seats and formula have jack and shiat to do with it and the key is just to not let your kid go through their *entire life* devoid of support, care and self-expression.

07 Jan 2013 05:26 PM
Gelatinous     

phlegmmo: Summer Glau's Love Slave: I have a roomie who believes with all his heart that you just dump the frozen orange juice into the pitcher and drink the syrup without adding a drop of water. He set himself on fire last fall because he tried to start a fire by pouring a quart of gasoline on the wood before kneeling down to light it.
Get out now before he kills you both.


Really. That's some Idiocracy shiat right there.

07 Jan 2013 05:28 PM
stirfrybry     
Adam Lanza was breastfed

07 Jan 2013 05:29 PM
FarkinHostile     
My dog did the cutest thing the other day...

07 Jan 2013 05:29 PM
kombat_unit     

KatjaMouse: My mom was considered something of a revolutionary when she told her friends that she intended to breast feed. However, apparently, I was having none of it and opted for starvation for the better part of my first week of life until my grandmother came over with a pallet of formula.

I also hated it when my parents showed me spontaneous affection. It's a miracle I didn't grow up and become a serial killer.


Give it time. Mutilate a few neighborhood pets, to whet your appetite.

07 Jan 2013 05:29 PM
SubjectVerb     
I am going to follow everything my mother did (which is wrong according to this idiot author) since I scored off the charts on all standardized tests and graduated college with a 4.0.

/not bragging, offering evidence that this article is BS

07 Jan 2013 05:29 PM
Orange-Pippin     

Raptop: I call BS


I think they may have a point. For example, cartoons. I don't have a television, but recently I was visiting my brothers family and they had the TV on--all day--with cartoons. The cartoons were all way too loud and each character spent the entire time screaming at each other--not talking--yelling. Dora-the-explorer is an example of this. Afterwards,my husband and I noticed how loud my brothers children are and how loud all their childrens friends were. After sitting in front of the TV for 3 hours a day, then watching this same nonsense at daycare for a few hours and then being surrounded by peers who also watch the same cartoons/advertisements -- it really does have a profound influence on developement. The TV is very much part of modern parenting and I don't think its helping the situation.

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07 Jan 2013 05:31 PM
Surpheon     

SubjectVerb: I am going to follow everything my mother did (which is wrong according to this idiot author) since I scored off the charts on all standardized tests and graduated college with a 4.0.

/not bragging, offering evidence that this article is BS


With hardcore anecdote-as-proof reasoning there, well... I'm sure you can weave some great baskets in any depth of water with your degree.

07 Jan 2013 05:32 PM
Smeggy Smurf     
Rules of good parenting:

1. Reward good behavior
2. Beat the bad behavior out of them
3. Nevermind fear of God, Fear of Dad (TM) comes first
4. Encourage them to not be little shiats
5. Beat them when they're little shiats
6. Teach them life is hard, then you die

07 Jan 2013 05:33 PM
Clemkadidlefark     
No shiat

07 Jan 2013 05:34 PM
GF named my left testicle thundercles     

SubjectVerb: I am going to follow everything my mother did (which is wrong according to this idiot author) since I scored off the charts on all standardized tests and graduated college with a 4.0.

/not bragging, offering evidence that this article is BS


youre very smart so you should know that you are just a single data point.

btw what major?

07 Jan 2013 05:35 PM
profplump     

lohphat: What are you supposed to do with a infant or toddler that sleeps only 3 hours at a time as is prone to tantrums? Go without sleep and then go over the edge and kill it?


You don't relegate it to the care of a single person (or two people) -- you let a whole slew of people take turns caring for it.

The isolation caused by "families" is one of the worst things civilization has ever produced. We now live physically closer together than ever before and somehow we have less caregivers available per child.

07 Jan 2013 05:36 PM
preybyemail     
It takes a village man.

07 Jan 2013 05:38 PM
Evil Twin Skippy     

Raptop: I call BS


I call double BS. It starts off with how formula is the devil and breast feeding is best, and proceeds to lose credibility from there.

07 Jan 2013 05:39 PM
Strangelove MD     
Do they mean for the brains of the kids or parents?

/Who am I kidding, it is probably both.

07 Jan 2013 05:39 PM
gadian     
My toddler's most common utterances are "Hug!", "Tisses! (kisses), and "Tick-tick" (tickles), so I think I've done well and continue to do well in the physical nurturing part seeing as though he's an affectionate and happy, mostly tantrum-free little dude. I would like to be more physical with him though and better about not letting him see me sitting on my ass all day. We've recently begun dancing to Wiggles dvds together and those really do give you a sort of work out if you do it right. We've also recently started going for long walks in the afternoons if it's anywhere near 0f or above. "Tree!", "Buwd!", "SNOW!!!" *leap head first into snow bank*

Damn Wiggles, doing jumping jacks and jogging in place is not dancing *grumble*.

07 Jan 2013 05:40 PM
DrCalx     

SubjectVerb: I am going to follow everything my mother did (which is wrong according to this idiot author) since I scored off the charts on all standardized tests and graduated college with a 4.0.

/not bragging, offering evidence that this article is BS


How's your social life? Feeling balanced?

07 Jan 2013 05:42 PM
Holocaust Agnostic     

profplump: lohphat: What are you supposed to do with a infant or toddler that sleeps only 3 hours at a time as is prone to tantrums? Go without sleep and then go over the edge and kill it?

You don't relegate it to the care of a single person (or two people) -- you let a whole slew of people take turns caring for it.

The isolation caused by "families" is one of the worst things civilization has ever produced. We now live physically closer together than ever before and somehow we have less caregivers available per child.


But if we don't do the nuclear family thing how will we know who can visit you at hospitals!?!

07 Jan 2013 05:42 PM
BeerGraduate     
I think modern paintings' abstract qualities are great for brains.

07 Jan 2013 05:43 PM
Smelly Pirate Hooker     
Sure, it's about time somebody came up with a fresh group of reasons why some parents should feel incompetent while making another group of parents feel smug.

The whole point of having children is to prove you can do it better than everyone else. Right?

07 Jan 2013 05:48 PM
Alonjar     
This is why I don't parent my children... I'm going with the free range strategy. Just scatter some feed from time to time and let nature do the rest.

07 Jan 2013 05:48 PM
dopekitty74     
Color me unsurprised. The lack of outdoor unrestricted playtime is one of the worst losses kids (and parents) have to deal with these days.

07 Jan 2013 05:53 PM
Smelly Pirate Hooker     

profplump: lohphat: What are you supposed to do with a infant or toddler that sleeps only 3 hours at a time as is prone to tantrums? Go without sleep and then go over the edge and kill it?

You don't relegate it to the care of a single person (or two people) -- you let a whole slew of people take turns caring for it.

The isolation caused by "families" is one of the worst things civilization has ever produced. We now live physically closer together than ever before and somehow we have less caregivers available per child.


Sure. Families are the problem.

When my mom needed some time off from us kids, she just dropped us off at a neighbor's house. OK, so they pimped us out for drug money a couple times, but I call that a learning experience. Now we know to always get the money up front.

07 Jan 2013 05:53 PM
letrole     
The obvious conclusion is that parents can be fairly honest about the methods they use, but completely full of shiat about the results.

Self-reporting is useless.

Just go to Walmart, see how the good and bad kids act in relation to the parents. As a side observation, check out the purchases the parents make.

It doesn't matter if you beat kids senseless or if you let them breastfeed until they're five. Parenting isn't a tactic.

07 Jan 2013 05:56 PM
ennuie     

Smeggy Smurf: Rules of good parenting:

1. Reward good behavior
2. Beat the bad behavior out of them
3. Nevermind fear of God, Fear of Dad (TM) comes first
4. Encourage them to not be little shiats
5. Beat them when they're little shiats
6. Teach them life is hard, then you die


#6 made me the miserable bastard I am today. Double points if you use it to justify your own bad parental behavior.

//You forgot #7 "There's always someone better." If you don't tell your kids that, they might grow up thinking they could be good at things through hard work and perseverance.

07 Jan 2013 05:57 PM
El Dudereno    [TotalFark]  

iaazathot: My wife and I let our daughter sleep with us until she was 18 months old. We just weaned her at two and a half, and she gets a lot of physical contact from us and others in the form of hugs, sitting in our laps reading, and snuggling in bed with us after she wakes up.

The one thing everyone says about her is how happy and outgoing she is and easy to deal with. Although we get some acting out behavior associated with her being 2+, she is a dream to be around 95% of the time and seems far ahead of a lot of the other kids in her daycare in language, counting, and social interaction.

We specifically thought about many of the things this article mentions and decided to not follow common child rearing practices. So far so good.


Seconded. All of that.

Ours is 3.375 years old now. Not sure on causation, but my experience has been similar.

07 Jan 2013 05:58 PM
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