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   "Where's my magic button, the switch I can flip to show men like you what it feels like on the other side of your 'jokes' and 'compliments'?"

19 Jan 2013 08:58 AM   |   22241 clicks   |   A letter to some guy
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Frederick    [TotalFark]  
So being really attractive is a two sided coin, eh?  Who woulda thought.

Of course on the other side of the coin is; greater salariesundeserved promotions, more lenient sentences, ugh, lets stop the list there.....

I wonder why your article didnt mention how your husband deals with your attractiveness?

19 Jan 2013 04:37 AM
DrPainMD     
The author, and most of the commenters, needs to grow a pair.

19 Jan 2013 04:45 AM
Smashed Hat    [TotalFark]  
What about all the women who have harassed ME about my enormous dong? What about MY rights??

/never happened once
//cries softly to himself

19 Jan 2013 05:00 AM
DO NOT WANT Poster Girl     

Frederick: So being really attractive is a two sided coin, eh?  Who woulda thought.

Of course on the other side of the coin is; greater salaries,  undeserved promotions, more lenient sentences, ugh, lets stop the list there.....

I wonder why your article didnt mention how your husband deals with your attractiveness?


Fark you. Attractive women are not the only women who deal with farkupitude from guys. I got the same crap this woman got, either of the same type, or worse, the same experience not tempered by a pretty face. If you're female, you're fair game, out there in the world of assholes.

And her husband? Really?

Go EABOD.

19 Jan 2013 05:19 AM
DrPainMD     
Don't worry DNWPG. If your real-life personality is anything like your Fark personality, they'll leave you alone as soon as they get to know you.

19 Jan 2013 05:38 AM
Frederick    [TotalFark]  

DO NOT WANT Poster Girl: Frederick: So being really attractive is a two sided coin, eh?  Who woulda thought.

Of course on the other side of the coin is; greater salaries,  undeserved promotions, more lenient sentences, ugh, lets stop the list there.....

I wonder why your article didnt mention how your husband deals with your attractiveness?

Fark you. Attractive women are not the only women who deal with farkupitude from guys. I got the same crap this woman got, either of the same type, or worse, the same experience not tempered by a pretty face. If you're female, you're fair game, out there in the world of assholes.

And her husband? Really?

Go EABOD.


Hmmm.  I read the article as I'm-so-pretty-guys-wont-leave-me-alone and apparently you read the article as all-men-are-rapists-in-waiting.

Fark me & EABOD...?  Thats a little harsh.

19 Jan 2013 06:34 AM
Lsherm    [TotalFark]  
She was wearing yoga pants.  Yoga pants are an aphrodisiac.

If you don't want attention, wear sweatpants without "juicy" printed on the back.  Or mom jeans.  I have years of experience in looking unattractive.

Go to a gay bar looking "nice?"  Yeah, the creeps come out.  That's expected.

19 Jan 2013 06:39 AM
Honest Bender    [TotalFark]  
Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.

19 Jan 2013 07:28 AM
FirstNationalBastard    [TotalFark]  

Honest Bender: Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.


And all those years of coasting by on looks and never developing a personality while complaining that they're only recognized for their looks come back to haunt them!

19 Jan 2013 08:06 AM
OtherLittleGuy    [TotalFark]  
"Where's my magic button?" First, take off your panties.

19 Jan 2013 08:45 AM
SnarfVader     
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19 Jan 2013 08:46 AM
Quantum Apostrophe     

"and a middle-aged guy"


If it had been a hot young guy it would have been fine.

19 Jan 2013 09:01 AM
EZ Writer     
Woah... Someone has a lot of sand in their vagina.

19 Jan 2013 09:02 AM
ExperianScaresCthulhu     

Honest Bender: Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.


a heaping helping of THIS. the ho doth protest too much. like celebutards who call the paparazzi, then act like divas when they paps arrive.

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DO NOT WANT Poster Girl: Frederick: So being really attractive is a two sided coin, eh?  Who woulda thought.

Of course on the other side of the coin is; greater salaries,  undeserved promotions, more lenient sentences, ugh, lets stop the list there.....

I wonder why your article didnt mention how your husband deals with your attractiveness?

Fark you. Attractive women are not the only women who deal with farkupitude from guys. I got the same crap this woman got, either of the same type, or worse, the same experience not tempered by a pretty face. If you're female, you're fair game, out there in the world of assholes.

And her husband? Really?

Go EABOD.


I see what you're saying, and agree with it. Again, leads back to the ho doth protest too much. She's not really, she's bragging. See also: hos who make a point of pointing out their BMI when it's on the low end.

19 Jan 2013 09:04 AM
tfresh     
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"Where's my magic button?". Its called marriage sweetheart!

// YES I know what ring that is

19 Jan 2013 09:04 AM
ModernLuddite     
Ladies: You can have equality when you stop using your body to get free shiat.

Deal?

19 Jan 2013 09:05 AM
ExperianScaresCthulhu     

FirstNationalBastard: Honest Bender: Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.

And all those years of coasting by on looks and never developing a personality while complaining that they're only recognized for their looks come back to haunt them!


Eh, they'll just live throught their daughters. The circle completes itself.

19 Jan 2013 09:05 AM
phillyguy1547     
To the author:

I'm a dude. I'm a 5'10" 190 lb dude. I still sometimes walk to the other side of the street if someone who looks like bad news is coming toward me. I'd still get a cab rather than stand at a bus stop with someone who gives me the creeps. It's called common sense.

Quit assuming that you're unfairly forced to have some common sense because you're pretty and a girl.

As to the rude comments. Words only have power if you let them. Ignore them.

Keep doing what you're doing - i.e. taking the smart steps to keep your self safe.... but just lose the "poor pretty me" attitude about doing it.

19 Jan 2013 09:07 AM
It's Me Bender     

Honest Bender: Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.


Whoa -- too much honesty! You'll kill the hamster!

19 Jan 2013 09:07 AM
Mister Peejay     

Smashed Hat: What about all the women who have harassed ME about my enormous dong? What about MY rights??


This may make you feel better.

/not a rickroll

19 Jan 2013 09:08 AM
zippythechimp     

Honest Bender: Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.


Wise you are.

19 Jan 2013 09:09 AM
jaybeezey     
Breaking News...Dudes can be assholes and unarmed women who've never figured out a way to defend themselves feel helpless!

More at 11!

19 Jan 2013 09:09 AM
cabbyman     
It's hard to concentrate on this in such a sandwich-free environment....

19 Jan 2013 09:10 AM
Brainsick     

phillyguy1547: Quit assuming that you're unfairly forced to have some common sense because you're pretty and a girl.


QFT

19 Jan 2013 09:11 AM
ExperianScaresCthulhu     

ModernLuddite: Ladies: You can have equality when you stop using your body to get free shiat.

Deal?


Never happen. Not just because men wouldn't allow it to happen, either. It's easier to deal with someone as a body, than as a person. It's easier to control (and be controlled). Things are simpler. Everyone likes simple.

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Smashed Hat: What about all the women who have harassed ME about my enormous dong? What about MY rights??

/never happened once
//cries softly to himself



Thank you for pointing this out. There are some major social differences at work here. There is no straight comparison at all. What do women want from men, that men will become harassed and frightened and angry about when women continue to pursue it from them without their permission (besides alimony)?

19 Jan 2013 09:12 AM
maxx2112     
Chick needs to get laid . . . big time.

19 Jan 2013 09:12 AM
DO NOT WANT Poster Girl     

Frederick: DO NOT WANT Poster Girl: Frederick: So being really attractive is a two sided coin, eh?  Who woulda thought.

Of course on the other side of the coin is; greater salaries,  undeserved promotions, more lenient sentences, ugh, lets stop the list there.....

I wonder why your article didnt mention how your husband deals with your attractiveness?

Fark you. Attractive women are not the only women who deal with farkupitude from guys. I got the same crap this woman got, either of the same type, or worse, the same experience not tempered by a pretty face. If you're female, you're fair game, out there in the world of assholes.

And her husband? Really?

Go EABOD.

Hmmm.  I read the article as I'm-so-pretty-guys-wont-leave-me-alone and apparently you read the article as all-men-are-rapists-in-waiting.

Fark me & EABOD...?  Thats a little harsh.


So you thought her related instances of sexual harassment only happened because she wanted to prove she's THAT attractive?

And then you launch the "all-men-are-rapists-in-waiting" straw man.

Not harsh enough.

19 Jan 2013 09:12 AM
ExperianScaresCthulhu     

DrPainMD: Don't worry DNWPG. If your real-life personality is anything like your Fark personality, they'll leave you alone as soon as they get to know you.


Boy, please. Who pissed in your cheerios this morning?

19 Jan 2013 09:13 AM
Lenny_da_Hog     

Honest Bender: Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.


I saw one of those yesterday morning. She was around forty, forty-five, wearing a top that said, "I have the pussy, I make the rules."

19 Jan 2013 09:13 AM
Brainsick     

jaybeezey: Breaking News...Dudes can be assholes and unarmed women who've never figured out a way to defend themselves feel helpless!

More at 11!


This chick sounds like someone I'd rather not meet armed, at night.

"But officer, he was CLEARLY carrying a penis, I didn't know what he'd do with it! (Doe eyes) I was so afraid..."

19 Jan 2013 09:13 AM
Easy Reader     
Also published as "A Morning's Stroll In Italy".

19 Jan 2013 09:17 AM
ExperianScaresCthulhu     

Mister Peejay: Smashed Hat: What about all the women who have harassed ME about my enormous dong? What about MY rights??

This may make you feel better.

/not a rickroll


If its too big, most women won't let you go all the way in without lots and lots and lots and lots of prepwork. There are no quickie ram sessions. Then you're stuck with mastubating, size queens, homos or horses. I guess that's alright, though.

19 Jan 2013 09:17 AM
ZAZ    [TotalFark]  
Maybe the first time someone comments on your ass in public you'll take it as a compliment, but what about the next 12 times?

My middle aged male ass is not going to get compliments (from women or gay men). I could survive being one of the nos in her no... no... no... yes! series.

I do ask myself what if somebody I really didn't want were doing the same to me. And if you take offense at something well within my tolerance in that situation, I call you nasty misogynistic names in my head and write you off as a person.

19 Jan 2013 09:17 AM
cabbyman     
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19 Jan 2013 09:17 AM
SnarfVader     
But it's still OK to male bash, right ladies?

19 Jan 2013 09:17 AM
WhippingBoy     
While I sympathize somewhat, I have a couple of problems with articles like this:

1. There's a subtle suggestion that this type of harassment and/or unwanted attention NEVER happens to men
2. There's a underlying belief that "men" (in general) condone these types of actions
3. The "outrage" seems to be for the express purpose of generating blog hits

There's jerks in life; we encounter them every day. To attribute an given individual's jerky behaviour to any conveniently defined "group" is intellectually dishonest. If I were to put blinders on and conveniently ignore those instances where persons of my gender were jerks to me (and instead focused only on those instances where person of the opposite gender were jerks to me), I could become a social justice crusader.

19 Jan 2013 09:18 AM
DO NOT WANT Poster Girl     

Honest Bender: Don't worry. Some day you'll hit that right age where you become invisible to men. Then it's fun to watch women freak out that they can't get attention anymore.


I'm that age now, or rapidly approaching it, and let me tell you, it's a relief. I can now enjoy the benefits most guys have, which is not being stared at by some guy, any guy, anywhere i go. Of course, I'm am geek girl and would have liked these benefits of "this age" 30 years ago.

Of course, if you're openly being cruised by aggressive gay guys whenever and wherever you go, you have my sympathy...age falls off slower it seems.

19 Jan 2013 09:18 AM
WhippingBoy     

ExperianScaresCthulhu: What do women want from men, that men will become harassed and frightened and angry about when women continue to pursue it from them without their permission (besides alimony)?


Their children?

19 Jan 2013 09:19 AM
Bored Horde     

Frederick: So being really attractive is a two sided coin, eh?  Who woulda thought.

Of course on the other side of the coin is; greater salaries,  undeserved promotions, more lenient sentences, ugh, lets stop the list there.....

I wonder why your article didnt mention how your husband deals with your attractiveness?


Good looking men get more money and raise through the ranks faster. Good looking women get sidelined into pretty-face positions.

Women have to be average to slightly-above-average looking, thin but not too thin, fashionable without being slutty or dowdy, done up without going too far - women live on a razor's edge that doesn't exist for men. Everything a woman does is open for judgement, in a way that isn't true for men. Go farking talk to some women. Ask them how stressful buying a skirt is - is it fashionable or slutty to have a hemline 2 inches above their knees? What if they're self-conscious about their knees and want to wear a below-the-knees skirt - will people subconsciously regard them as too conservative and pass them over for big projects or management positions?

Talk to women. Check your assumptions, and listen with an open mind. Remember that all the problems they list - obsessing over being taken seriously, obsessing over avoiding or feeling guilty about inviting unwanted attention, obsessing over their appearance - these are all on top of the normal life stresses. Being a woman doesn't let you off the hook from your health, paying the bills, keeping your car in good working order, and all the other annoyances of life.

If you're not interested in doing this then just recognize that you don't have the perspective and knowledge to empathize with being a woman. You should just consider that many attractive women who age feel relief (and guilt over that relief) when they become "invisible" and are no longer subject to all that extra special attention. Some also feel crushed because most of their male friends were just in it to bump bits for a few minutes, and years of companionship and shared experience were apparently for naught.

19 Jan 2013 09:19 AM
jimmajim     
So the consensus in this thread is that the guys described in TFA did nothing wrong? There's no point in criticizing their behavior, boys will be boys, right? wink wink nudge nudge.

19 Jan 2013 09:19 AM
tirob     
I do not recall my ever uttering any of the kinds of things the writer mentions to any woman or girl anywhere, at any time, nor do I recall any of my buddies ever having done so.

A good bit of what the writer describes in TFA would be classified as disorderly conduct here. May I suggest, ladies, that you all look up the relevant statutes where you are and that, if you are sufficiently alarmed by this kind of thing, you call a cop the next time it happens.

/I sense that the writer is bragging just a little bit....

19 Jan 2013 09:19 AM
omeganuepsilon     
That level of paranoia is not normal. That is what she is describing, there's a world of difference between due vigilance and the paranoia of a simpleton. Just maybe, it's a case of the victim gravitating towards them.(AW as people above documented).

That kind of cat-calling is, by and large, a regional thing, the only attainable solution is to move to someplace that activities like that aren't common. I get a kick out of at the bottom of the article it says she loves Chicago. That's an obvious lie if half the populace is like that.

Who needs an app to see what they're doing wrong? It's not that society at large does not think it's wrong, it's that the perpetrators of such behavior DO NOT CARE.

Men's hair gets pointed out well enough, The Donald for a great example, or Nicholas Cage's. So *drumroll* that argument is irrelevant.

19 Jan 2013 09:20 AM
Billy Bathsalt     
I work in construction, and my crew takes some pride in being pleasant to passers-by. We were on a job downtown, and lots of women would walk by on their way to work. Of course we would notice them, and got to the point where we were exchanging "good mornings" with the friendlier ones. Then the electricians arrived, including a punk kid who spent a lot of time harassing women walking by. After that, most of the women crossed the street or took a different route to work.
Jerks who act like the ones the author describes are ruining things for men as well as women.

19 Jan 2013 09:20 AM
DO NOT WANT Poster Girl     

DrPainMD: Don't worry DNWPG. If your real-life personality is anything like your Fark personality, they'll leave you alone as soon as they get to know you.


Yea, because the last guy who groped my ass in a crowded subway car wanted to know what I thought of the dual Higgs discovery, you moron.

19 Jan 2013 09:21 AM
WhippingBoy     

jimmajim: So the consensus in this thread is that the guys described in TFA did nothing wrong? There's no point in criticizing their behavior, boys will be boys, right? wink wink nudge nudge.


Who said that? Be specific.

19 Jan 2013 09:22 AM
Bored Horde     

SnarfVader: But it's still OK to male bash, right ladies?


Who said that? Why is it ok to attribute the words of a few women to all men? Are we taking the words of fringe men - that female sexual pleasure is perverse and that they should have their clitoris removed - and projecting them over all of men? No. We aren't.

I wonder why you are projecting fringe views of a few people across all of women? Perhaps to justify your own bigoted position?

19 Jan 2013 09:22 AM
gilgigamesh     
I eagerly await the follow up article in 20 years whining about how guys don't pay attention to her anymore.

19 Jan 2013 09:23 AM
JohnCarter     
Well...did she get the beef or pork taco??

Taco...giggity

19 Jan 2013 09:24 AM
WhippingBoy     

DO NOT WANT Poster Girl: DrPainMD: Don't worry DNWPG. If your real-life personality is anything like your Fark personality, they'll leave you alone as soon as they get to know you.

Yea, because the last guy who groped my ass in a crowded subway car wanted to know what I thought of the dual Higgs discovery, you moron.


Do you think that this doesn't happen to men? When I was younger, I had my ass groped (without my consent) a number of times. I imagine that men who are more attractive then me have experienced this even more.

19 Jan 2013 09:24 AM
Tyrone Slothrop     

Mister Peejay: Smashed Hat: What about all the women who have harassed ME about my enormous dong? What about MY rights??

This may make you feel better.

/not a rickroll


Does anyone rickroll anymore?

19 Jan 2013 09:25 AM
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