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  • Um no.

    Well I dont know about your shrink but no one understands jealousy better than Shakespeare.
  • Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?
  • I only care if they're going to turn jealousy into a mental illness.

    Wait, no I won't.
  • A blogger goes against well-established (by centuries) knowledge and makes some nonsense up. Who to believe?
  • How about realizing your partner is just as lucky to have YOU as you are to have HER? (or him)

    In the case of men, stop being an emasculated pussy. Realize that you bring certain things to the relationship that no one else can. If she is making you feel like you have to EARN her, then dump the biatch and find someone decent who will respect you and realize that YOU aren't the only lucky person present.

    In the case of women, realize that you dont need some guy to provide for you. You are capable of providing for yourself and SHOULD. If you are with a man that thinks a woman's place is in the kitchen and HE's the one that makes all the money, then dump the misogynistic bastard and get a real man.
  • KatjaMouse: Wow, that blog sucked.


    And what's the "Amusing" tag doing there? Was I supposed to laugh?
  • FTFA: A typical one size fits all nugget from these tomes: Jealousy results from low self-esteem.

    Sometimes you know your significant other could have done a lot better than you, and you don't want to lose your lucky break. That lucky break could very well be the only good thing in your life.


    I love it when people give examples that reinforce the very point they're trying to refute. As other people have said, your blogs sucks.
  • Arumat: Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?


    I feel like a little bit of jealousy is healthy for a relationship. It's not necessary but it's not a bad thing either. It all comes down to the manifestation of that reaction. Like telling your boyfriend that he can't hang out with that one girl, ever. Or that guy who's so paranoid that his girlfriend is going to sleep with his best friend that he will intentionally create tension anytime either of them are in any kind of proximity to one another. But feeling a little nervous around someone that your partner may potentially have attraction for can create something of a positive challenge or self discovery. "Why am I jealous? Is X displaying something I wish was present in myself or something I may have lost at some point? Maybe I should figure out why that's pissing me off so I can fix the problem in a more constructive fashion than having my spouse needlessly pissed at me."
  • KatjaMouse: I feel like a little bit of jealousy is healthy for a relationship.


    No, it isn't. If someone older than about 20 suffers from jealousy, he/she should not be in a relationship. Adults may feel jealousy on occasion, but chalk it up being childish and silly. If a mate is actually doing things that would evoke the emotion, then that mate should be summarily dumped.
  • White text on a black background instantly notified me the blog isn't worth reading.
  • Jealousy is an objective negative when it comes to relationships. Either you aren't being cheated on and you should trust your partner, or you are being cheated on and you should leave your partner. That's it.

    The whole "I trust you but I don't want you hanging out with x" means you don't trust him/her.

    That said: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.
  • Jealousy is quite about self-esteem BUT it's also about confidence and trust.

    Many confuse jealousy and envy when they start their own version of psycho-babble, and it appears that it's what I read in this article.

    A guy that would hit on my wife (which has happened) wouldn't make me jealous, because I trust my wife (something that I understand is hard to do in many couples), but I might be wanting to biatch at the guy for the lack of respect if he had hit on her knowing that she was married.

    If he didn't, then I'd see it as compliment to my wife, and consider myself lucky that I have a nice looking wife that other guys would show interest.
  • My wife is going through a mid-life crisis and wants to kiss everyone in sight so I'm getting a kick...
  • Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.


    As a 41-year-old never-married bachelor, I must say this is some of the best advice you'll ever read. All you young Farkers should burn this into your brain.
  • REO-Weedwagon: Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.

    As a 41-year-old never-married bachelor, I must say this is some of the best advice you'll ever read. All you young Farkers should burn this into your brain.


    Perhaps I should introduce her to My Little Friend...
  • Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: That said: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.


    Why? You can't trust me simply because I grew up a tom-boy and still hold the same friends I've had for 22 years? I'd think that would show a level of loyalty one might want from their partner.

    And being good friends with an ex, couldn't that state a level of maturity from both people now that the relationship is ended? Most of my exes are great people, I wouldn't have dated them in the first place if they weren't. We simply didn't work out in a romantic situation... so why should we lose a good person from our lives because we're not dating any longer?

    Understanding and knowing your partner can go a long way towards a healthy relationship. If you understand and know your partner you have no excuse to not trust them.
  • If you still have a problem with jealousy, and your age no longer requires saying "teen", then you should take a serious look at where your life went wrong.
  • CapeFearCadaver: Dow Jones and the Temple of Doom: That said: never date a girl with more guy friends than girl friends, never date a girl who works at a restaurant, and never date a girl who is still good friends with an ex.

    Why? You can't trust me simply because I grew up a tom-boy and still hold the same friends I've had for 22 years? I'd think that would show a level of loyalty one might want from their partner.

    And being good friends with an ex, couldn't that state a level of maturity from both people now that the relationship is ended? Most of my exes are great people, I wouldn't have dated them in the first place if they weren't. We simply didn't work out in a romantic situation... so why should we lose a good person from our lives because we're not dating any longer?

    Understanding and knowing your partner can go a long way towards a healthy relationship. If you understand and know your partner you have no excuse to not trust them.


    It's like the BMI - it may not be applicable to 100% of cases, but it's a useful metric in the screening process.
  • Shakespeare was a grand versifier, but the idea that he possessed great psychological insight is absurd. His main character is invariably a dimwit or an asshole - in either case, in need of nothing so much as a good punch to the face.

    ...and I'm not the first to think so.
  • Arumat: Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?


    I have been with women that attempt to elicit jealousy from their SO. Its demonstration seem to make them feel better about themselves and my commitment to our relationship. How was my jealously "selfish"?
  • nmemkha: Arumat: Regardless of the true motivation behind it, jealousy is still selfish at its core. If you have trust with your partner, it'll only undermine the rest of the relationship, create resentment and bitterness, and drive you apart. If you don't have trust with your partner, wtf are you doing in the relationship anyway?

    I have been with women that attempt to elicit jealousy from their SO. Its demonstration seem to make them feel better about themselves and my commitment to our relationship. How was my jealously "selfish"?


    In that case, it's from THEIR selfishness for trying to make you feel negatively about the relationship to satisfy their own ego. From the way you said it, I'm guessing that you're no longer with those manipulative skanks, so good for you.
  • What a bunch of bull, jealousy means you dont trust the other person, usually because you feel insecure about yourself and dont think you deserve them. If you think someone hitting on your girl/guy is going to cause you to lose them, then you dont really have them to begin with.
    Also the author seems a bit obsessed with looks, as if that is the only source of jealousy.
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